"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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B1tches b1tchin bout my playboy tshirt

FwoGiZ

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So one of my pic on dating sites is me wearing a playboy shirt. Here's the pic. So I've had several women comment on it, asking me BUT WHY? Usually I tell them it's used as a filter to weed out the easily offended ones.
Sometimes they'll insist it's objectifying women.. I am never sure what to respond to that although I am well aware women are the one objectifying themselves the most.
What would you guy respond?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"My momma doesn't dress me anymore. If this offends you then you will not be a good fit for me. Good luck to you."
 

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What if the chick is actually very chill and not actually being a b1tch tho, like "I thought it was funny but don't you think it's objectifying women?"
Basically usually I shut them down pretty fast but the one chick yesterday was actually super chill, just curious? What would you guy reply?
 
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Diffuse it by saying "I'm a dude. I like girls. Playboy is basically Esquire with more pictures of girls. Therefore I like Playboy & make no apologies for that."

Or tell them

"It's a celebration of women rather than objectification. That's how I see it"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Like women don't objectify rich men. Gimme a break.

o_O
 

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It's no big deal. If they're bitchin, it's most likely their own personal problem.
 

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You gave them an answer based on what you believe. They could either take it or leave it. You don't owe anyone that you are trying to get to know an in depth explanation of what you wear. Personally speaking I would just ignore it and politely change the topic. You'd think they were trying to get to know you for you.
 

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Anyone bitching about anything, try to explain it to them nicely, ONCE. If they keep on bitching, drop them. They will most likely ***** about a million other things in the future and trust me, you don't want a bitching woman.
 
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