"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Avoiding the ‘she’s into me’ trap

Mbuckets82

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I find myself often falling into a thing where if a woman is really into me then I just fall for that even though she may not be the best fit. I realize spinning plates helps me look and see what a good fit would be but anything else I can or we can do as men to not fall into that?

I do live a pretty great life without a relationship, finances in order, stay in good shape, super active, home and job all good. I have kids I split time with their mom but that ain’t a thing.

I’d like to avoid that trap though.
Right now I’m talking to 3 females. All have kids, 2 are splitting from their husbands in uppers 30s. Another 26 with one child that I can tell is really into me. I’m trying to remain open and see if anything comes across my path without kids of their own. She’s not in the best shape, I have fun with her. But being active and looking good is important. Being 26 out of shape sin the best.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alvafe

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never commit to a woman with kids, have all the fun you can, but please never fall for her. and never stop looking
 

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I find myself often falling into a thing where if a woman is really into me then I just fall for that even though she may not be the best fit. I realize spinning plates helps me look and see what a good fit would be but anything else I can or we can do as men to not fall into that?

I do live a pretty great life without a relationship, finances in order, stay in good shape, super active, home and job all good. I have kids I split time with their mom but that ain’t a thing.

I’d like to avoid that trap though.
Right now I’m talking to 3 females. All have kids, 2 are splitting from their husbands in uppers 30s. Another 26 with one child that I can tell is really into me. I’m trying to remain open and see if anything comes across my path without kids of their own. She’s not in the best shape, I have fun with her. But being active and looking good is important. Being 26 out of shape sin the best.
Keep them for fun, but always wear protection. Best thing about a person who's out of shape is that they can get themselves into shape. Weight a person can fix if they want to. Looks and height, not so much.
 

Mbuckets82

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Even if I have kids. It’s best to find females who have none?
And to tell you the truth, I’m having a hard time excepting the fact one day I’ll have to share the attention of my kids when they’re here. I’ve grown to love the tri pod we have and enjoying them alone. Having to adjust to that I’ll lose some of the bond we have cuz I’ll be catering to the lady too.
 
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