"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CaliGuyInLondon

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Okay so I met this girl. She's super cute, like really cute, but whatever, irrelevent I suppose. She's fun, smart and totally my type. She's a freshman at my University and in the major that I am like President of and stuff so she thinks I'm a big dog I believe. She was telling all her friends last night how Im the head honcho and whatever and she'd be like tell them!!!! and I'd say stuff like yeah im president of slacker club, just to rile her up a bit.

anyway, she's like a good christian girl, never has done more than make out and what not, which is cool with me, because im a good christian boy...most of the time. My question is, how do I make sure that I avoid the friendzone without sexualizing things and using stuff that might freak her out given her innocence?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My question is, how do I make sure that I avoid the friendzone without sexualizing things and using stuff that might freak her out given her innocence?
You don't. You sexualize. You tease. You make her want you. You make her want to go against her moral fabric. You break her.
 

CaliGuyInLondon

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ah i get it! thanks for that, seems so simple now that you say it, lol.

every other guy will play up to her christianity is what you're saying? but im not every other guy?

thank you sir. you are a gentleman and a scholar.
 

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agreed. moral character will not inspire attraction in a girl. Sexual,flirty, teasing behaiviour +looks inspires attraction. It's only after she's attracted to you that she will go to her list of moral characterisitcs that she needs meet before she starts a serious relationship with you. If your attraction is great enough she will ignore these logiclly desired qualities all together.

Just like you're going to find a hot girl attractive regardless of her moral fiber she will feel the same way about you because of a certian set of looks+behaiviours(sexually flirty ones). Granted you might never want a relationship with the hot chick lacking in morals, but you're still going to be attracted to her.

hope that helps.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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