"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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CaliGuyInLondon

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Okay so I met this girl. She's super cute, like really cute, but whatever, irrelevent I suppose. She's fun, smart and totally my type. She's a freshman at my University and in the major that I am like President of and stuff so she thinks I'm a big dog I believe. She was telling all her friends last night how Im the head honcho and whatever and she'd be like tell them!!!! and I'd say stuff like yeah im president of slacker club, just to rile her up a bit.

anyway, she's like a good christian girl, never has done more than make out and what not, which is cool with me, because im a good christian boy...most of the time. My question is, how do I make sure that I avoid the friendzone without sexualizing things and using stuff that might freak her out given her innocence?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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My question is, how do I make sure that I avoid the friendzone without sexualizing things and using stuff that might freak her out given her innocence?
You don't. You sexualize. You tease. You make her want you. You make her want to go against her moral fabric. You break her.
 

CaliGuyInLondon

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ah i get it! thanks for that, seems so simple now that you say it, lol.

every other guy will play up to her christianity is what you're saying? but im not every other guy?

thank you sir. you are a gentleman and a scholar.
 

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agreed. moral character will not inspire attraction in a girl. Sexual,flirty, teasing behaiviour +looks inspires attraction. It's only after she's attracted to you that she will go to her list of moral characterisitcs that she needs meet before she starts a serious relationship with you. If your attraction is great enough she will ignore these logiclly desired qualities all together.

Just like you're going to find a hot girl attractive regardless of her moral fiber she will feel the same way about you because of a certian set of looks+behaiviours(sexually flirty ones). Granted you might never want a relationship with the hot chick lacking in morals, but you're still going to be attracted to her.

hope that helps.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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