Avoid mentioning other dates?

[HankHill]

So on a date if she asks you "how was your weekend?" or "what did you do yesterday/last night?" etc Do you make something up if you had another date? I usually say oh I met some friends for drinks/dinner etc.

 

[HankHill]

So basically putting her on notice you have other options is a good thing?
I ask because if a woman does that to me it's a turn off...I feel she wants me to compete and I just don't care for that. It should just all flow naturally without effort.

 

[old_skoolr]

I just say I caught up with a friend.

I wouldn't tell her it was a date because:

a) none of her business

b) dont want to come off as an arrogant prick

 

[Murk]

"out with a friend"

Or if I'm feeling very daring;

"a friend stayed over"

we all know what both those phrases mean

 

[meldiamond]

Yeah, I like the vague but honest answer.

Even married women use this strategy. For example, a married woman I was talking to told me she had just bought a house in the area with her "friend." Turns out the "friend" was her husband. It wasn't a lie, they are likely friends. But it wasn't quite honest, either.

Or, how about a married woman giving me her phone number. "It's so we can find each other later in the evening" when she has to stay to close out her tab while our group hops to another bar. Yes it is so we can find each other later in the evening. But it's also to find each other later in the evening if you know what I mean.

It's the art of the skillful dishonest truth, and keeping things hidden in open sight.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah, I like the vague but honest answer.

Even married women use this strategy. For example, a married woman I was talking to told me she had just bought a house in the area with her "friend." Turns out the "friend" was her husband. It wasn't a lie, they are likely friends. But it wasn't quite honest, either.

Or, how about a married woman giving me her phone number. "It's so we can find each other later in the evening" when she has to stay to close out her tab while our group hops to another bar. Yes it is so we can find each other later in the evening. But it's also to find each other later in the evening if you know what I mean.

It's the art of the skillful dishonest truth, and keeping things hidden in open sight.

Straight up liars.

 

[Billtx49]

Straight up liars.

I’ve always found a vague truthfulness to always be a better option…
The one person you Always need to be truthful to is yourself…

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I’ve always found a vague truthfulness to always be a better option…
The one person you Always need to be truthful to is yourself…

I don't do too much where I have to lie. But in a "dating" context it's a valid way to be.

 

[RickTheToad]

I just say I'm out with some friends. Let their hamster wheel to the work for me. It's just easier. As you can see, I only meet crazy ladies anyway.

 

[HankHill]

I just say I'm out with some friends. Let their hamster wheel to the work for me. It's just easier. As you can see, I only meet crazy ladies anyway.

LMAO look on the bright side at least these crazy women want to sex you up.

 

[RickTheToad]

LMAO look on the bright side at least these crazy women want to sex you up.

Apparently so. I do not like attracting crazy ladies. I guess that is what I am attracting now. Great. Perhaps being single and alone isn't that bad after all? Too much stress dealing with crazy ladies..

 

[BeExcellent]

Be vague. I like all the varieties of what @LARaiders85 @meldiamond and @RickTheToad said. You want to be seen as having a social life, having other people who enjoy spending time with you, and allowing her the space to wonder what it all means. As you start dating someone (and you are also dating others) you also want plausible deniability.

There is no need to create unnecessary conflict early on before anybody has chosen to be exclusive by setting up a competition. Her mind will do that without your assistance if you are a desirable man. Let her mind do that work for you.

If she asks direct questions about whether or not you are dating others, you learn things about her (insecure much?) A good woman is going to have confidence that she will be leading the competition and so she is less likely to worry about you having other dates. In fact, she will have other dates of her own if she herself is desirable.

In time two people who really enjoy each other naturally gravitate toward one another. Without needing to lay down the gauntlet.

 

[The Duke]

In a woman's mind, they all want the guy that has multiple options, yet they don't actually want you exercising any of those options. Just paint the illusion. Not being needy, dressing good, not being too available, confident indifferent, talking good, and charming all send the signal that you are a desirable man with multiple options. Be all of this and she will likely tell you that she knows you are a desirable man and she won't dare ask any questions for she fears the truth.

 

[marmel75]

So on a date if she asks you "how was your weekend?" or "what did you do yesterday/last night?" etc Do you make something up if you had another date? I usually say oh I met some friends for drinks/dinner etc.

Yeah no reason to bring that up