Avoid girls that claim words of affirmation as her love language

[CornbreadFed]

This is a subtle but huge red flag that shouldn’t be overlooked. This is her telling you that she’s crazy lol.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Correct. It means she needs constant verbal validation. And it’s easy for men to talk their way into her pants.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Better yet avoid women who make a big deal out of the love languages. If they mention they like touch or quality time as a love language as a brief aside, ok. But if they ask it upfront like they ask you what you do for a living, then avoid. They are cliched and either a hopeless romantic or a serial dater.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I'd say you'd have to give a good enough example otherwise this is just another generalized statement that doesn't hold weight unless you're operating in that same weak mindset as "all women are evil, they are cynical!" -- maybe to some of you, but not to some of us. Sure we meet crazies but after a while it becomes easy to spot em out and avoid them.

Words of affirmation can be a good thing, especially if the girl is insecure/used to be cheated on.. Helps her feel more secure int he relationship. A relationship with no trust will crumble real fast. Vice versa if the man is insecure/was cheated on. I know damn well some of the dudes on here would love to have a chick who affirms sht to them to remind them they are loved, appreciated, etc.. Alot of dudes out there are hella insecure, hurt, weak, full of trust issues.

The women and men who use words of affirmations in relationships are usually peopel who have empathy. Its people who lack empathy who are more likely to cheat on you or do you wrong, not the ones WITH empathy.

"omg she said i love u babe" "RED FLAG" .. "omg she said i appreciate u and all the things u do for me babe" "RED FLAG!!!" "baby i kniow u been wrokign hard and i jus want to say, if u need anything just let me know" OMG RED FLAG

nah.... this aint it. but who knows maybe you got a good example

 

[CornbreadFed]

I'd say you'd have to give a good enough example otherwise this is just another generalized statement that doesn't hold weight unless you're operating in that same weak mindset as "all women are evil, they are cynical!" -- maybe to some of you, but not to some of us. Sure we meet crazies but after a while it becomes easy to spot em out and avoid them.

I think @EyeBRollin made the clearest point. These women tend to be extremely open minded to the point of being gullible and make it easier for other men to get in her pants. Furthermore, these women tend to be prime target for psychopaths & toxic men such as the Tinder Swindler & etc. All it takes is one of these bad men to permanently damage her mentally and turn her in to a crazy hopeless romantic. If you choose to date this girl, you definitely need a hard cut off at age 20 or something just to be safe.

 

[The Duke]

Should we also avoid girls who claim PHYSICAL TOUCH as their love language? Because according to @EyeBRollin 's reasoning regarding WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, it could mean that its easy for men to TOUCH their way into her pants.

A guy wouldn't even need words, just hands. He could just start touching her and next thing you know she would be on her back.

The world is not as black and white as many of you make it out to be.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I think @EyeBRollin made the clearest point. These women tend to be extremely open minded to the point of being gullible and make it easier for other men to get in her pants. Furthermore, these women tend to be prime target for psychopaths & toxic men such as the Tinder Swindler & etc. All it takes is one of these bad men to permanently damage her mentally and turn her in to a crazy hopeless romantic. If you choose to date this girl, you definitely need a hard cut off at age 20 or something just to be safe.

I think the bigger thing is its black and white thinking.. like @The Duke mentioned.. the world isn't black and white. It's not "Women are" or "All women are" "GIrls that <x> are " or "Avoid girls that <do this>" unless its biological like "All women experience a menstrual cycle" or biological but with strong general consensus like "All women like tall guys".

The thing EyeBeRollin said is a perfect example of black and white thinking. It makes the ridiculous assumption and claim that if a girl uses words of affirmation, thats all she has to do to prove that she "needs constant validation". Just imagine how many guys on here including myself have met women who use words of affirmation but don't need any validation.

Lastly, there are sht ton of women who use words of affirmation, guys too. It's not as big as you are making it.
To take one step further from what @BillyPilgrim said, Just avoid thinking in terms of love languages all together because humans aren't that fuccin simple like shapes in geometry to be defined by a few basic functions.

I mean if we think using you and EyeBeRollin's same logic:

GIrls that use words of affirmation need validation and are crazy
Girls that like spending Quality Time are Needy
Girls that like Physical Touch are hoes and will cheat on you
Girls that like Gifts are Gold Diggers
Girls that like Acts of Services just want to use you and manipulate you for their benefit.

Sht's just silly to think one simple thing can completely define a woman as crazy or not

 

[BeExcellent]

This ^^^^^

100%

 

[SW15]

Better yet avoid women who make a big deal out of the love languages. If they mention they like touch or quality time as a love language as a brief aside, ok. But if they ask it upfront like they ask you what you do for a living, then avoid. They are cliched and either a hopeless romantic or a serial dater.

This is the kind of silly stuff that is commonly seen with swipe app profiles but far less of a thing in real life conversations.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I mean if we think using you and EyeBeRollin's same logic:

GIrls that use words of affirmation need validation and are crazy
Girls that like spending Quality Time are Needy
Girls that like Physical Touch are hoes and will cheat on you
Girls that like Gifts are Gold Diggers
Girls that like Acts of Services just want to use you and manipulate you for their benefit.

Sht's just silly to think one simple thing can completely define a woman as crazy or not

I agree with BillyPilgrim here. Any woman who is into the "love languages", astrology and other mumbo jumbo is going to be trouble. That stuff is the female equivalent of conspiracy theories.

 

[CornbreadFed]

In response to all:

I don’t think connecting a common correlation with toxic women is black and white thinking. There’s a reason low value/toxic women tend to have this trait about them. Now, if you want to take your chances then so be it. This could be the literal bridge opening to high body counts and bad decisions such as mating with low value men.

Even if she has no idea what “love languages” are, she could easily respond to “words of affirmation” and be appropriated in that category.

 

[The Duke]

In response to all:

I don’t think connecting a common correlation with toxic women is black and white thinking. There’s a reason low value/toxic women tend to have this trait about them. Now, if you want to take your chances then so be it. This could be the literal bridge opening to high body counts and bad decisions such as mating with low value men.

Even if she has no idea what “love languages” are, she could easily respond to “words of affirmation” and be appropriated in that category.

The point you have missed is high value women also respond to affirmation. You chose to ignore that for some reason.

 

[Murk]

Gift-giving is a bigger red flag, I used to see that on OLD and roll my eyes. Ol little miss ran through demanding coin from the get go.

 

[CornbreadFed]

The point you have missed is high value women also respond to affirmation. You chose to ignore that for some reason.

There’s exceptions to every rule though. Yes, that dangerous venomous snake might not bite you, but why risk it?

 

[Solomon]

Girls who use "Love languages" are the easiest pork