"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Average man swipe data put in numbers...

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cheeky_James

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Yeah like Radiohead said. We would have to see his pics to determine how ‘average ‘ he is.

not enough context here.
 

Gamisch

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Average as in Normal weight man or fat man?
Average as in Normal weight man or fat man?
I did found his picture..he may be considered below average( smv4) but still..a man's smv can ofcourse increase if his statusis solid..

I'm sure that a dude like this up untill 15 years ago might've been a solid provider who gets cheated on eventually ( but that happens to the best of us init?). I conclude that because the "you go girl" motivational speech would go like "hey at least 195 women did swiped right!!!!! And you only need one you go GURL".

The reason why the picture isn't that important is because I've seen TONS of similar posts. Tons. You can 10x his positive results and it still would be embarrassing.
 
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I did found his picture..he may be considered below average( smv4) but still..a man's smv can ofcourse increase if his statusis solid..

I'm sure that a dude like this up untill 15 years ago might've been a solid provider who gets cheated on eventually ( but that happens to the best of us init?). I conclude that because the "you go girl" motivational speech would go like "hey at least 195 women did swiped right!!!!! And you only need one you go GURL".

The reason why the picture isn't that important is because I've seen TONS of similar posts. Tons. You can 10x his positive results and it still would be embarrassing.
Screenshot 2026-11-06 at 13-19-45 Murray Hill Guy on X Ran possibly my most brutal dating app ...png
 

zekko

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Well, he got 195 yeses, how many does he need?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's not difficult to believe; it's a very simple concept.

Women, regardless of how they look, their biology is designed to pick the most suitable mate. Back in the day they just had the people in their school, college, workplace, neighborhood, etc.

Now they have thousands of men that can be evaluated at their fingertips within a second. They will maximize to find the best man in that environment which means most men are rejections, especially since the only thing they have to go off of is looks.

Not a hard concept to understand.
 

We_ArE_VeNOM

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Yeah like Radiohead said. We would have to see his pics to determine how ‘average ‘ he is.

not enough context here.
"I want to see pics of another man, so I can put things in perspective".

Sounds kinda sassy, to me.
 
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