"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Average looking women who are a huge turn on.

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What does voice have to do with anything? I noticed that a woman's voice (a particular type) can really get me going.
 

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starfishandcoffee said:
What does voice have to do with anything? I noticed that a woman's voice (a particular type) can really get me going.
There's no doubt that women with more "womanly" voice (think Disney cartoon princesses), are more feminine.... Their voice (in a brutally slimmed down scientific explanation) sounds like that because they lack testosterone. Which is exactly what makes them more feminine/passive/submissive.
 

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starfishandcoffee said:
What does voice have to do with anything? I noticed that a woman's voice (a particular type) can really get me going.
There's a woman I work with that sounds like a phone sex operator when you talk to her on the phone. She's not even hot.
 

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zekko said:
I don't think the OP was attracted to the girl because she average. More like in spite of it. There was something about her, she had some sort of quality that made her sexually attractive. I know exactly what he's talking about.
Zekko, that's exactly what I mean.

Look, I have the hots for a 10 like any other guy and average
looking women have redeeming qualities I'm willing to look over.
I've had many LTRs with average women.

This girl is VERY average....yet I'm turned on as if she IS a 10.
Every time I see her, I want to tear off her clothes and go to town and
I'm getting the signals she'd be all for it if she wasn't married.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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average is sexy because it is attainable. That's all to it.
 

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PapiChulo said:
average is sexy because it is attainable. That's all to it.
If that were all it was, then every average woman would be sexy.
What's going on is that some women have something about them that pushes your buttons, even if they might not be considered classic beauties. It's chemistry or something. I'm surprised more guys here haven't experienced this.

To clarify, these women aren't ugly, so don't mistake that. I'm thinking he's probably talking about maybe a 6.

I'm wondering if this is something akin to what average guys who are successful at pickup achieve. "He's not that good looking, but there's something about him that's really sexy....". Some sort of animal magnetism, that sort of thing.
 

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^^ Agreed. Pheromones all the way.

You don't even know that that is what you are picking up on......

It's animal instinct.....Scent....... Chemistry.

I hope you fooked her like the wild Zebra she is.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
I've been attracted to plenty of average or slightly better than average chicks.....

This might sound completely strange to everyone in this thread:

But when asked what attracts me most about a woman: my answer is normally her sexual vibe... I can almost sense how they'd be in bed.... Hell, i can almost tell you what her pvssy looks like before ever seeing it.... A lot of this is physical features and the way she caries herself, combined with her bubbliness, etc. But I just call it her "sexual vibe".

It works in opposite ways too. I remember there was this girl I worked with. Probably (at least) a HB8 in the average man's eyes. Blonde hair, blue eyes, on the tall side, nice body; had done some amateur modeling..... She was VERY into me..... So much so, that one of my co-workers said to me, "You better hit that man, she's falling all over you." My answer was, "nah... I'll pass... She's too boring in bed."
Doesn't sound strange to me at all: you can often make a good guess at what she'll be like in bed just from the way she carries herself. If she looks like she's probably the type to grudgingly blow you and then just lay there like a dead fish then it doesn't matter how to me hot she is. If she's lively and energetic in her everyday then she's probably just as so on the mattress.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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