Working a 9-5 used to be a great proposition for men--due to societal constrictions that made women dependent on male resources and monogamy the overwhelming social norm, you could assure yourself a wife, a family, communal respect, etc. by putting your head down and doing what you were told. That's no longer the case.
The sexual marketplace has become a free market. Women vote with their eggs (or more than that, given modern contraception, their 'hypothetical' eggs) and they are not voting for providers or stability, at least not in their prime.
Why else would a man work a 9-5 unless it was to provide for a woman? Maybe it's work he really loves--and in that case, I say go for it. Maybe it's to support a lifestyle he really loves outside of work--and in that case, I say go for it. But
usually it's neither.
Usually a man settles in to a 9-5 because it's expected (caving to societal pressures), to get approval from his community (approval-seeking behavior/low self-worth), because he thinks he has to do it to get sexual access (low self-worth, misunderstanding of male/female dynamics), or because he's risk-avoidant. All of those are signifiers of
weakness &
low social status. Basically, it's a huge bargaining arrangement to trade you time & resources in negotiation for female desire.
The truth is, women in their primes don't want their desires negotiated for. They'd rather have a total deadbeat who's done absolutely nothing to qualify for her approval than a guy who's dedicated years of his life to shape himself into a 'suitable' partner that women
should desire. They'd rather have an exciting broke guy than a stable, respectable cubicle drone.
I'm doing pretty well for myself, but I don't tell women how much money I make (and the fact I make money in the first place is incidental to my decision that I'd never again be dependent on any one boss or job to sacrifice my time & principles to serve any purpose other than my own). I tell them I work fast food or that I'm a professional gambler. I make it clear, covertly, that there are no resources here except for excitement, good convo & my 'hypothetical' genetics. Maybe a glass of cheap wine.
Women are not attracted to men. They are attracted to the resources those men provide. Get some resources.
Women are
aroused by men--specifically the emotions those men make them feel. They might marry for resources, they might even fvck for resources; but women don't get wet every time they get a paycheck; your strippers don't get wet for every guy who throws them stacks, they don't rub their money on their cl1t when they get off work. Your perceived correlation between resources & arousal is because
YOU feel better about YOURSELF when YOU have resources; women are aroused by your feelings about yourself, not on any logical qualifications those feelings are based on. For instance, if you could convince your subconscious that women were attracted to red t-shirts, that red t-shirts were the greatest, most important thing in the world & that your red t-shirt made you the highest status man in any room, then wearing a red t-shirt would create the same damn effect lol.
