"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It seems like attractiveness should make things easier but in my case it has not. I have been told many times by many people that I am very attractive and yet I don't have good success with women. When I go out it seems like virtually none show any interest right off the bat. It's just weird having been told that I'm attractive and yet there seems to be no interest. Wouldn't it be normal for women to pay more attention to you if you really are attractive?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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YOU have to approach women.

It's not the other way around. I consider myself good looking yet I have only been approached 3 times in my life by average looking chicks.
 
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I agree that most often approaching will be necessary and that most women won't do it. But it seems like I would notice more signs of interest and that they would at least smile or give some kind of body language clue?
 
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labyrinth said:
I agree that most often approaching will be necessary and that most women won't do it. But it seems like I would notice more signs of interest and that they would at least smile or give some kind of body language clue?
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no, that only happens in movies.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I don’t know. I get women giving me clues all the time. Lots of smiles, but then I do smile a lot myself and it tends to be contagious. Mostly though women do expect the man to make the first move.

I hear guys all the time with the complaint that they are attractive but girls aren’t going for them. Sometimes I wonder who is telling them that they are attractive, like their grandmother. Being attractive is more than just having a handsome face. It also takes an athletic body, a confident walk, appropriate mannerisms, the ability to look another in the eye without flinching, and control over one’s smile and eyes and all that.

I’m good looking enough that I know there have been women who were greatly attracted to me but never showed any signs out of fear of rejection and embarrassment. Typically if I approach a woman and look in her eyes I can tell if she is attracted or not. Once I start talking to her, the attraction will be obvious in her reaction and the things she’ll say.

Most women have greater approach anxiety than men do.
 
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