"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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thebiglimp

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i'm beginning to see a pattern with my failures. it's my voice.

aside from my in-person rejections that i have listed so painstakingly on this forum, i had 2 tinder failures recently including last night.

so these girls who want to hook up, wants to first hear my voice on the phone. after that, their interest lvl drops to zero. one simply stopped talking, the other one only gives one word replies. we exchanged bunch of pictures prior so voice is all it narrow down to. (no nudie shots, mind you)

as the saying goes men feel what they see, women what they hear, i think i'm coming across as something repulsive whenever i open my mouth. i have a very downtrodden tone and my voice isn't even attractive to begin with. anybody had to cope with issue like mine? is this such a deal breaker and can it be fixed?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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salinechow

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I guess we would need to hear it honestly. Try and figure out a way. Soundcloud maybe? You could email me a file perhaps?

I would say though, unless is is very very extreme, its probably your game, not your voice. We can work on that too. LMK.
 

Comatozed

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I don't know if my voice is attractive, I hadn't really considered it. I think I tend to talk a bit deeper when on a date though.
 

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Whatever your voice is, just OWN it. Guys with many different sounding voices can do well with women.

Please don't do the PUA tryhard "force your voice to have more bass" thing. It sounds like someone is speaking a quarter inch from a microphone lol.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bokanovsky

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If Eddie Murphy can get laid despite his voice, so can you.
 

thebiglimp

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yeah, this girl was asking me to come over then sent me a voice text 'does it really take an hour to get here?'. my short reply 'i was thinking of traffic but it's still a bit of distance'

after that her interest level= 0.1

i mean how bad did i have to sound to fk that up so quickly? lol
 

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There should be tons of resources on the web to teach a man how to modulate his voice. I've come across many in my wanderings.

Avail yourself of Google and you'll be able to get it handled.
 

thebiglimp

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yeh i found some here too right after making this thread. the place is a gold mine and i'm now a digger.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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