"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

attractive voice

thebiglimp

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2014
Messages
65
Reaction score
1
i'm beginning to see a pattern with my failures. it's my voice.

aside from my in-person rejections that i have listed so painstakingly on this forum, i had 2 tinder failures recently including last night.

so these girls who want to hook up, wants to first hear my voice on the phone. after that, their interest lvl drops to zero. one simply stopped talking, the other one only gives one word replies. we exchanged bunch of pictures prior so voice is all it narrow down to. (no nudie shots, mind you)

as the saying goes men feel what they see, women what they hear, i think i'm coming across as something repulsive whenever i open my mouth. i have a very downtrodden tone and my voice isn't even attractive to begin with. anybody had to cope with issue like mine? is this such a deal breaker and can it be fixed?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

salinechow

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 14, 2014
Messages
491
Reaction score
167
Location
NYC
I guess we would need to hear it honestly. Try and figure out a way. Soundcloud maybe? You could email me a file perhaps?

I would say though, unless is is very very extreme, its probably your game, not your voice. We can work on that too. LMK.
 

Comatozed

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 9, 2014
Messages
253
Reaction score
8
I don't know if my voice is attractive, I hadn't really considered it. I think I tend to talk a bit deeper when on a date though.
 

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,412
Reaction score
5,176
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
Whatever your voice is, just OWN it. Guys with many different sounding voices can do well with women.

Please don't do the PUA tryhard "force your voice to have more bass" thing. It sounds like someone is speaking a quarter inch from a microphone lol.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Bokanovsky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2012
Messages
5,528
Reaction score
5,718
If Eddie Murphy can get laid despite his voice, so can you.
 

thebiglimp

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2014
Messages
65
Reaction score
1
yeah, this girl was asking me to come over then sent me a voice text 'does it really take an hour to get here?'. my short reply 'i was thinking of traffic but it's still a bit of distance'

after that her interest level= 0.1

i mean how bad did i have to sound to fk that up so quickly? lol
 

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,660
Reaction score
6,623
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
There should be tons of resources on the web to teach a man how to modulate his voice. I've come across many in my wanderings.

Avail yourself of Google and you'll be able to get it handled.
 

thebiglimp

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2014
Messages
65
Reaction score
1
yeh i found some here too right after making this thread. the place is a gold mine and i'm now a digger.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Top