did he look like this?mahon83050 said:Not to mention the guy was only 5'4". Is he happy with himself? Maybe, I don't know. However, I can't imagine looking like that and being happy.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
did he look like this?mahon83050 said:Not to mention the guy was only 5'4". Is he happy with himself? Maybe, I don't know. However, I can't imagine looking like that and being happy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Does it make you more appreciative of what you have?mahon83050 said:Not to mention the guy was only 5'4". Is he happy with himself? Maybe, I don't know. However, I can't imagine looking like that and being happy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:Sounds about right. The guy denouncing a looks-matter thread is out nailing the hotties while the guy PERPETUATING the looks-matter myth is losing his virginity after being on the site for 7 years.
so how many thousands of cold approaches have you done to get this loser mindset?Deus ex Pianoforte said:Tricky question. Have I used the tools on this site to gain confidence? Yes. Did they work? No. Have I hooked up with any girls because of the tools? I have a girlfriend, but in the 2 years that I've been on this site I've had exactly one opportunity to hook up with a girl. And she was wasted. Far below average success, so I must be far below average-looking, right? Of course not; that's absurd. But that's exactly what guys like mahon are trying to preach.
Oh, I don't whine. I accept my lack of confidence as a major personal flaw. We all have them. My flaw just happens to be the number one quality women look for in a man. And every time I try I either get ignored and occassionally flat-out rejected. I must be REALLY ugly, right?
This is one of the main reasons this thread is illegal, btw. There's nothing to argue. The facts speak for themselves.
How are you not banned? You make no points.mahon83050 said:You're an idiot my friend. Just look how you yourself treat attractive people subconsciously and all of the studies done on it. So I guess these experts and psycologists are all idiots as well?
I got laid last month, but it was not my first time. Where the hell did that come from.