how do you have connections if no one talks to you?Originally posted by david90
It seems to me that people only care about my connections. People don't talk to me unless they see that i'm talking to somebody popular or an hb. In other words social proof.
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Re: Re: attention from girls
I do know a couple of people with lots of social proofs but I'm just semi-close to them. When people see me talk to them, they want to talk to me to talk to them , and i guess to up there social standing. I feel like a fat chick with hot friends
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Re: Re: Re: attention from girls
whining doesnt fix it
up your social standing if you think it will solve your problems.... you're smart, you can think of ways to do that
oh shut upOriginally posted by david90
I do know a couple of people with lots of social proofs but I'm just semi-close to them. When people see me talk to them, they want to talk to me to talk to them , and i guess to up there social standing. I feel like a fat chick with hot friends
whining doesnt fix it
up your social standing if you think it will solve your problems.... you're smart, you can think of ways to do that
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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.