That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hey, Mr. Me, try something like this:Hey, I'll have salami once in a blue moon, a little is okay, but not a steady diet of it. But you can go ahead and eat all the saturated fats you want and take the risk that the conventional wisdom is wrong.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Have you actually READ the Atkins book? This sounds like someone described the Atkins diet 4th hand to you (eat a lot of beef, hurhurhur) and you are judging THAT diet. Atkins promotes lots of low carb vegetables with proteins and fats, not gorging on bacon.Quiksilver said:By sensible I do not mean the approach atkins took, eating burgers, bacon and other processed meats all day, which are loaded with hydrogenated oils and potentially transfats.
I've been through this with the anabolic diet (similar as the first 2 weeks you eat less then 20g carbs/day). I felt like ****.. no energy for the gym or anything really.. much less sex. It took a bit longer for me but around the 3rd week or so in my body switched and my energy levels evened out again.StevenR said:Going into week 2 of an extremely low carb diet, and am having second thoughts about it. There are days when I feel lethargic and not doing much. The other strange thing that has happened is that I have almost completely lost my sex drive. I no longer care about women that much, and half the reason I am doing this is to be able to attract hotter women. Anyone else who has tried a low carb diet, fewer than 20g carbs, and lost their sex drive?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.