"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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athletic girl wants control

strey

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met at a bar. went home with her. she says she loves having control and hates guys telling her what to do and trying to dominate her. i thought girls didnt think this way?! she is cool and fun personality, but how should i handle her and this situation? any suggestions are welcome. thanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Are you a submissive, less masculine type of guy? Nothing wrong with that. If not, she might have a little too much "masculine" energy for you. Try to find out what kind of guys she's into, and you'll probably see that most are of the less masculine types.

She's a physical, athletic type of chick with probably a lot of a tomboyish attitude. Are you a "pretty boy", or metro type of guy? If not, I suggest you run, don't walk.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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strey said:
met at a bar. went home with her. she says she loves having control and hates guys telling her what to do and trying to dominate her. i thought girls didnt think this way?! she is cool and fun personality, but how should i handle her and this situation? any suggestions are welcome. thanks
Believe it or not, most women don't like being told what to do. Guys tend to mistake being in control of themselves with being controlling, this is very apparent when dealing with women who are in pretty good control of some aspect of their own lives.

Be confident, make plans and act upon them. Don't be wishy-washy and respect this woman to be capable of making her own decisions.
 

DavenJuan

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Believe it or not, most women don't like being told what to do. Guys tend to mistake being in control of themselves with being controlling, this is very apparent when dealing with women who are in pretty good control of some aspect of their own lives.

Be confident, make plans and act upon them. Don't be wishy-washy and respect this woman to be capable of making her own decisions.
exactly.. there is a HUGE difference between having control over YOU, versus being controlling.

she doesnt like to be controlled but believe me, she will have MUCH RESPECT for you if you stand for what you believe in and KNOW what you want.

if you want to do somnething make plans to do it.

NOW...

if she is saying that she like to make all the plans, and EVERYTHING is her way or the highway with no compromise. then you need to move on.

this type of girl is not what you probably want anyway.
 

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It depends on what you want. If you're cool with letting her take the lead in the relationship and you're attracted to her, well, sure why not. It's nice sometimes to be with chicks who lead the relationship cause doin' all of that leadin stuff takes a lot of time and energy. If you're not attracted to her, though, I say run for the hills.

You know, she could just be one of those chicks putting up a tough front, but on the inside she's really saying "spank me, I'm a bad girl." Just a thought.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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