"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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athletic girl wants control

strey

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met at a bar. went home with her. she says she loves having control and hates guys telling her what to do and trying to dominate her. i thought girls didnt think this way?! she is cool and fun personality, but how should i handle her and this situation? any suggestions are welcome. thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gangster Of Love

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Are you a submissive, less masculine type of guy? Nothing wrong with that. If not, she might have a little too much "masculine" energy for you. Try to find out what kind of guys she's into, and you'll probably see that most are of the less masculine types.

She's a physical, athletic type of chick with probably a lot of a tomboyish attitude. Are you a "pretty boy", or metro type of guy? If not, I suggest you run, don't walk.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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strey said:
met at a bar. went home with her. she says she loves having control and hates guys telling her what to do and trying to dominate her. i thought girls didnt think this way?! she is cool and fun personality, but how should i handle her and this situation? any suggestions are welcome. thanks
Believe it or not, most women don't like being told what to do. Guys tend to mistake being in control of themselves with being controlling, this is very apparent when dealing with women who are in pretty good control of some aspect of their own lives.

Be confident, make plans and act upon them. Don't be wishy-washy and respect this woman to be capable of making her own decisions.
 

DavenJuan

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Believe it or not, most women don't like being told what to do. Guys tend to mistake being in control of themselves with being controlling, this is very apparent when dealing with women who are in pretty good control of some aspect of their own lives.

Be confident, make plans and act upon them. Don't be wishy-washy and respect this woman to be capable of making her own decisions.
exactly.. there is a HUGE difference between having control over YOU, versus being controlling.

she doesnt like to be controlled but believe me, she will have MUCH RESPECT for you if you stand for what you believe in and KNOW what you want.

if you want to do somnething make plans to do it.

NOW...

if she is saying that she like to make all the plans, and EVERYTHING is her way or the highway with no compromise. then you need to move on.

this type of girl is not what you probably want anyway.
 

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It depends on what you want. If you're cool with letting her take the lead in the relationship and you're attracted to her, well, sure why not. It's nice sometimes to be with chicks who lead the relationship cause doin' all of that leadin stuff takes a lot of time and energy. If you're not attracted to her, though, I say run for the hills.

You know, she could just be one of those chicks putting up a tough front, but on the inside she's really saying "spank me, I'm a bad girl." Just a thought.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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