"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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At which point do you call if off with a low IL target?

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1 min.. 5 min... or until she moves from you ?


Okay supppose a girl is lukewarm in her interest to you ...not direct out cold ..but not showing 100 % interest..she still talks to you if you ask her questions but she doesn't talk in detail or isn't completely open in her body language..

Do you still talk to her hoping to change her opinion of you so she may like you in the future or do you just call it quits after 5 mins. and if she hasn't increased her interest level ?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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How about looking at it from another perspective. You just do the fun and exciting things that you normally do, and she can be along for the ride--to enjoy your energy. Don't try to *create* an opinion in her, or "convince" her to like you. Just be your excellent self, invite her into your reality for a while, and she'll make up her own mind. If she doesn't buy, oh well, someone else will.
 
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Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
 
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Originally posted by KnightRyder
Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
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No.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by KnightRyder
Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
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This advice isn't very realistic. If you feel as though a girl wants to be left alone, it's better to just leave her alone. NEXT!!!!!
 
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Ditto smoke city.

If you are trying to convince someone you are already in the low IL zone so whats the point? The process of "trying to convince" is your demise in this the situation.
 
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good point flexion_ . A Dj should never be not be in a 'bargaining" position but a position where is the one who is the prize.
 
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