"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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At which point do you call if off with a low IL target?

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1 min.. 5 min... or until she moves from you ?


Okay supppose a girl is lukewarm in her interest to you ...not direct out cold ..but not showing 100 % interest..she still talks to you if you ask her questions but she doesn't talk in detail or isn't completely open in her body language..

Do you still talk to her hoping to change her opinion of you so she may like you in the future or do you just call it quits after 5 mins. and if she hasn't increased her interest level ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How about looking at it from another perspective. You just do the fun and exciting things that you normally do, and she can be along for the ride--to enjoy your energy. Don't try to *create* an opinion in her, or "convince" her to like you. Just be your excellent self, invite her into your reality for a while, and she'll make up her own mind. If she doesn't buy, oh well, someone else will.
 
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Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
 
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Originally posted by KnightRyder
Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
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No.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by KnightRyder
Those are both good opinions both of you. But can you really change a women's low IL simply by going up to her and talking with her...
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This advice isn't very realistic. If you feel as though a girl wants to be left alone, it's better to just leave her alone. NEXT!!!!!
 
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Ditto smoke city.

If you are trying to convince someone you are already in the low IL zone so whats the point? The process of "trying to convince" is your demise in this the situation.
 
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good point flexion_ . A Dj should never be not be in a 'bargaining" position but a position where is the one who is the prize.
 
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