at what point in your life did you decide youve had enough with women and take the red pill? was it after marriage or after dating a string of BPD women and the media and so on promoting men to be lesser or a combination off all?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What's your line of business, Peak?PeakIV said:Took the red pill after my BPD trainwreck.
Been on my own for 18months and love it. Love being by myself and happy in my own company.
Do what I want when I want and no one tells me what to do ever
Earned a shedload of cash during this time and own my own house and business and drive a top end car.
Couldn't have done it with a crazy on my arm or any other chick probably as they would have been a distraction.
I realise I was too much of a people pleaser. No more.
Taken out a few chicks but realise I don't need them as I have so much going on with work and hobbies. I don't owe anyone a cent and couldn't give a tosss about my ex or any other pretty woman which is a bit worrying??!
I Know I will never get married again ( as someone said if you had 100K would you invest in a business which had a 50% chance of failing would you? NO.
well marriage is the same....50% chance of failing...
Be independant and embrace life. Look after no.1 and that is you.
Money might not make you happy but it does give you freedom and options.
So get out there and make it.
That's something to strive for surely?
THANK YOU! EXACTLY!PeakIV said:I Know I will never get married again ( as someone said if you had 100K would you invest in a business which had a 50% chance of failing would you? NO.
well marriage is the same....50% chance of failing...
To answer the OP's question, this is how it unfolded for me as well. I've always had pretty good luck pulling attractive women, but a terrible track record holding them down or picking quality women. I have a tendency to gravitate toward hot and crazy. Eventually, after getting shafted repeatedly, the reality started sinking in that it was probably something with me that needed to change.PeakIV said:Took the red pill after my BPD trainwreck.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Commercial interiors...offices, warehouses etc..Atom Smasher said:What's your line of business, Peak?
and until we get that out of our heads we will always be a slave to women...drellum said:To a certain extent I think we are conditioned into believing that we should "be with somebody"
I think everybody realises it at some point....usually, like me, its when you've made all the mistakes hahaPeakIV said:and until we get that out of our heads we will always be a slave to women...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ditto that!drellum said:I think everybody realises it at some point....usually, like me, its when you've made all the mistakes haha
There's a big difference between Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder (which is usually what the guys here on the forum are talking about when they say BPD). However, they are both very serious conditions, and I would stay far away from any women with either.synergy1 said:There are a lot of posts about BPD, but in my experiences I have not really met many. Maybe I have the added advantage of being exposed to a family member ( non blood related) who was diagnosed with Bi Polar disorder, and i saw the absolute horror that followed.
There is something missing from someone with real bipolar. It is as if they simply can not derive any sort of pleasure out of life. You can't reach them in any way. Its a very wierd feeling that I know well, and can sniff one out from a mile away. Case and point was this chick I met last weekend - she even said that we should hang out again ( she even dated professional athletes and was pretty hot) but I blatantly said no. I suspect many "alpha males" here would have said yes and gone down that road.zekko said:There's a big difference between Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder (which is usually what the guys here on the forum are talking about when they say BPD). However, they are both very serious conditions, and I would stay far away from any women with either.
I do have a good friend who is Bipolar however. And while he has remained a good friend, his life has most definitely been marked with tragedy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.