darkstarrr
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
f u 2. "honk kong" is a place you'll never be able to spill oil. professional proof reader on our hands herekingsam said:what kind of sh.it is this questionaire ?![]()
wheres "honk kong"??
dear kingsam,kingsam said:your question is retarded, where can you find STD free qulity women??
WHY?
there quality women everywhere....
darkstarrr said:I'm finally at a point in my life where I can go anywhere I want on the planet for 2-3 weeks (or more depending on if I decide to move there). I'm versatile with regards to what I can do for work, so that's not a major concern for me. I have a technical background, but I could teach English or open a small business somewhere.. I love travelling and seeing new people, places, and things. So I've decided I'm splitting town.But where to?
In making this decision I've found myself considering what my goals are. My short term goals in life are to go on a vacation of course, and RELAX - which falls under the umbrella of travelling as I described it above. My longer term goals are to accomplish more in life professionally, and through personal growth, self awareness, and the endless pursuit of engaging in self actualization. For many of us, this forum inevitably serves a tacit role in guiding us toward becoming better men. I suppose it could be considered some form of a digression then, for me to step aside from all that and get back to what brought me here in the first place: WOMEN!
One of my long term goals is to have children. I'd like to have a few before I'm 40, so that I'll be under 60 still when they turn 20. There's no major pressure or rush for this. It's just how I would prefer it. It's just what I want. Moreover, It'd be nice to have a person in my life with whom I can travel the world and share great times/experiences with.
I find myself looking at women with a more qualifying eye these days. I've gradually found myself adoring wholesome qualities in women more and more.
Bottom line - I'm just sick of the bullshit that I hear about day in and day out, that I've experienced myself - from western(ized) women. I'm still moderately young, good looking, in shape, and successful.
I'm getting the fuck out of here for a little while to see some new places, new things, and best of all --> different kinds of women from what the general trend is here.
On a more serious note, I've explored the idea of arranged marriages and mail order brides. Perhaps its true that, contrary to the statistics, it's just not the best idea.
I'm not interested in excessive partying these days. I attended one of the top party universities in my country and I have enough years of booze, clubbing, bars, sororities, hangovers, etc under my belt. Its just not condusive to much or constructive for me anymore. I still get out there from time to time, don't worry.And with one of my long term goals being to have children, I wouldn't want to meet the future mother of my children in a bar or club.
While I have the opportunity to do so, I just want to go somewhere far away from here for a while and experience a different perspective on some of the things I've mentioned.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.