darkstarrr
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
f u 2. "honk kong" is a place you'll never be able to spill oil. professional proof reader on our hands herekingsam said:what kind of sh.it is this questionaire ?![]()
wheres "honk kong"??
dear kingsam,kingsam said:your question is retarded, where can you find STD free qulity women??
WHY?
there quality women everywhere....
darkstarrr said:I'm finally at a point in my life where I can go anywhere I want on the planet for 2-3 weeks (or more depending on if I decide to move there). I'm versatile with regards to what I can do for work, so that's not a major concern for me. I have a technical background, but I could teach English or open a small business somewhere.. I love travelling and seeing new people, places, and things. So I've decided I'm splitting town.But where to?
In making this decision I've found myself considering what my goals are. My short term goals in life are to go on a vacation of course, and RELAX - which falls under the umbrella of travelling as I described it above. My longer term goals are to accomplish more in life professionally, and through personal growth, self awareness, and the endless pursuit of engaging in self actualization. For many of us, this forum inevitably serves a tacit role in guiding us toward becoming better men. I suppose it could be considered some form of a digression then, for me to step aside from all that and get back to what brought me here in the first place: WOMEN!
One of my long term goals is to have children. I'd like to have a few before I'm 40, so that I'll be under 60 still when they turn 20. There's no major pressure or rush for this. It's just how I would prefer it. It's just what I want. Moreover, It'd be nice to have a person in my life with whom I can travel the world and share great times/experiences with.
I find myself looking at women with a more qualifying eye these days. I've gradually found myself adoring wholesome qualities in women more and more.
Bottom line - I'm just sick of the bullshit that I hear about day in and day out, that I've experienced myself - from western(ized) women. I'm still moderately young, good looking, in shape, and successful.
I'm getting the fuck out of here for a little while to see some new places, new things, and best of all --> different kinds of women from what the general trend is here.
On a more serious note, I've explored the idea of arranged marriages and mail order brides. Perhaps its true that, contrary to the statistics, it's just not the best idea.
I'm not interested in excessive partying these days. I attended one of the top party universities in my country and I have enough years of booze, clubbing, bars, sororities, hangovers, etc under my belt. Its just not condusive to much or constructive for me anymore. I still get out there from time to time, don't worry.And with one of my long term goals being to have children, I wouldn't want to meet the future mother of my children in a bar or club.
While I have the opportunity to do so, I just want to go somewhere far away from here for a while and experience a different perspective on some of the things I've mentioned.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.