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I have this girl in my office with whom I have had on and off relationship. We never had sex but I have made it clear that it is the only thing between us to deepen our bonding. She has her own constraints. I am leaving the job. Tomorrow it will be my last day. We are in silent treatment but we still see each other. I am going to ask her that if wants to have any future association after I leave the place she will have to come to my house and find it herself if she will like me or not. This is the only way I can trust her. We had done a lot of push and pull and it was her excuses mostly. But then I never complained because I knew her limit. She will talk again but whenever I reach the point of making love she will stop with some excuses. This is the end. She has to break the limits or else I am pretty much tired of cat and mouse.

What do you guys think? Can I add something do something completely different? I have work. I cannot play games anymore.
 

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After you leave the job, go no contact for at least 2 weeks. A month would be better. Let her crave your presence and miss you.

During that time go get laid by as many other women as possible.

And for gawd's sakes quit dating women you work with!
 

Suave88

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I have this girl in my office with whom I have had on and off relationship. We never had sex but I have made it clear that it is the only thing between us to deepen our bonding. She has her own constraints. I am leaving the job. Tomorrow it will be my last day. We are in silent treatment but we still see each other. I am going to ask her that if wants to have any future association after I leave the place she will have to come to my house and find it herself if she will like me or not. This is the only way I can trust her. We had done a lot of push and pull and it was her excuses mostly. But then I never complained because I knew her limit. She will talk again but whenever I reach the point of making love she will stop with some excuses. This is the end. She has to break the limits or else I am pretty much tired of cat and mouse.

What do you guys think? Can I add something do something completely different? I have work. I cannot play games anymore.
I don't tell her ****. She does not want you! You are in her back burner. I don't know for how long you been dating... Sounds like she is milking your paycheck. Does she have your personal cell, email? Don't give a woman an ultimatum you cannot abide for, pack your **** and leave like James bond, you are not leaving her because you didn't act. I am sure you try many times before, yhe more she feels you like her, the more she stays away. Go no contact, let her contact you. When she does if she ever does.... Ask her out for a drink or coffee if she say no, block her azz forever and move on.
 

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I don't tell her ****. She does not want you! You are in her back burner. I don't know for how long you been dating... Sounds like she is milking your paycheck. Does she have your personal cell, email? Don't give a woman an ultimatum you cannot abide for, pack your **** and leave like James bond, you are not leaving her because you didn't act. I am sure you try many times before, yhe more she feels you like her, the more she stays away. Go no contact, let her contact you. When she does if she ever does.... Ask her out for a drink or coffee if she say no, block her azz forever and move on.
Yeah I didn’t spend any bs mental drama time with her. It was alway me telling her what to do and what not to do and she listened and liked it. Few times she tried calling me on weekends but I would scold her saying I have work to do. She was quite submissive but only when I talked about sex she raised her defence. I am leaving without saying anything. Only if she pokes me with a failing smile saying good bye and ****, I am going to give her my memorandum.
 

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After you leave the job, go no contact for at least 2 weeks. A month would be better. Let her crave your presence and miss you.

During that time go get laid by as many other women as possible.

And for gawd's sakes quit dating women you work with!
Yes man. I am not going to talk to her. I have done this with some other girl ans after few weeks she herself called but I didn’t reply. She was wreck.
 
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I have this girl in my office with whom I have had on and off relationship. We never had sex but I have made it clear that it is the only thing between us to deepen our bonding. She has her own constraints. I am leaving the job. Tomorrow it will be my last day. We are in silent treatment but we still see each other. I am going to ask her that if wants to have any future association after I leave the place she will have to come to my house and find it herself if she will like me or not. This is the only way I can trust her. We had done a lot of push and pull and it was her excuses mostly. But then I never complained because I knew her limit. She will talk again but whenever I reach the point of making love she will stop with some excuses. This is the end. She has to break the limits or else I am pretty much tired of cat and mouse.

What do you guys think? Can I add something do something completely different? I have work. I cannot play games anymore.
For me, no contact would work if I wouldn't still want to get inside her. As long as you get pu55y from someone else, it's fine( but it doesn't seem to be your current situation).

I prefer a more polarizing method: just telling her: "I have a rule, I never have have sex with girls I work with. But we're not work buddies any more, are we?"
Works better in person, but probably as well in text if you don't see her again. If she responds positively, you're free to bang her, if not, you'll know she's not worth your interest. Sounds like a win/win to me.
 

Suave88

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After you leave the job, go no contact for at least 2 weeks. A month would be better. Let her crave your presence and miss you.

During that time go get laid by as many other women as possible.

And for gawd's sakes quit dating women you work with!
I go no contact for 90 or more days. I practically move on if I can. She should become his side dish.
 
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I have this girl in my office with whom I have had on and off relationship. We never had sex but I have made it clear that it is the only thing between us to deepen our bonding. She has her own constraints. I am leaving the job. Tomorrow it will be my last day. We are in silent treatment but we still see each other. I am going to ask her that if wants to have any future association after I leave the place she will have to come to my house and find it herself if she will like me or not. This is the only way I can trust her. We had done a lot of push and pull and it was her excuses mostly. But then I never complained because I knew her limit. She will talk again but whenever I reach the point of making love she will stop with some excuses. This is the end. She has to break the limits or else I am pretty much tired of cat and mouse.

What do you guys think? Can I add something do something completely different? I have work. I cannot play games anymore.
Don’t say that, sounds creepy. She don’t want you bro. Leave the job and move on.
 

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Here is the finale.
Little background about me.
Top notch developer of the department.
Everyone knew I could do any work and I did it for 4 years.
Lot of respect among everyone. Only in terms of work ethics.
In terms of human relationship. Zero. Nobody wished me good morning because if they did they would
get "what do you need", "state your intention", "is something left to be done".
Edgy but important for work.

Come this girl. She really wanted to get my attention, which she did and things happened mentioned above in original post.

Since I wanted to get laid and made it clear, she had to push and finally block me out. Because of her "constraints".

I decided to leave since there was no motivation left. On the last day i got applause and negative reviews . She mentioned "intelligent person"(which doesn't get you laid, remember this).

No last moment talk. No call for day one after exit. I am expecting nothing now. Even if she does, time has passed too much for sticking around.

I will write an article for "Arrogant, egotistical and intelligent" people who don't get laid. What I have learned is, yes you have to bit ****y and arrogant(negging thoery) in attracting girls which I naturally do, but then once you get them in your circle you have to show care which i totally didn't do. I went straight up to sex and what not. Should have listened to her bull**** more but I really didn't have time and patience for that. So next chance, I guess I have to lay some time and buy some patience from ears and eyes. I shall remember this.
 

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Saying "Come to my house and have sex with me or we're done" is probably not a winning strategy. You're not leaving her any room for plausible deniability.
That said, the girl sounds like a complete waste of time anyway.
 

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OP, you got a career and another job..... Sounds like you make good earnings. I don't know the hell your title or position is. You got money.... I assumed. If you are not married or married and not happy with your wife or gf,or single and looking, move on to your next job and see what's there... In the interim, hire an escort or just head out for some free pvssy.. You need to get her out of your mind...... And yes.... She is a time waster. Alternatively, go to the movies, the zoo, pub, beach, take a road trip, go see your parents, and forget about her.
 
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Pajeet Singh

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OP, you got a career and another job..... Sounds like you make good earnings. I don't know the hell your title or position is. You got money.... I assumed. If you are not married or married and not happy with your wife or gf,or single and looking, move on to your next job and see what's there... In the interim, hire an escort or just head out for some free pvssy.. You need to get her out of your mind...... And yes.... She is a time waster. Alternatively, go to the movies, the zoo, pub, beach, take a road trip, go see your parents, and forget about her.
My finances are good. I am not married. No gf or partner. But I don't have to do those things in order to feel good. I am INTJ and fall under Asperger's spectrum. Computers, Math, Economics and books gives me relief. I am doing well. About forgetting about her, no I can not but I have discipline to not get affected by her in my other works.
 
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My finances are good. I am not married. No gf or partner. But I don't have to do those things in order to feel good. I am INTJ and fall under Asperger's spectrum. Computers, Math, Economics and books gives me relief. I am doing well. About forgetting about her, no I can not but I have discipline to not get affected by her in my other works.
Ok, well, we or at least me don't tell a woman "we have to have sex in order to consolidate our affair" so don't tell any girl that any more. You said she has constraints.... What you mean??? Also did you ever kiss this girl, I mean a kiss in her mouth? And if you did how about a blow job? Did she give you a blow job??? Don't fvcking lie to me.....
 

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Ok, well, we or at least me don't tell a woman "we have to have sex in order to consolidate our affair" so don't tell any girl that any more. You said she has constraints.... What you mean??? Also did you ever kiss this girl, I mean a kiss in her mouth? And if you did how about a blow job? Did she give you a blow job??? Don't fvcking lie to me.....
nothing happened. she is married
 

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Here is the finale.
Little background about me.
Top notch developer of the department.
Everyone knew I could do any work and I did it for 4 years.
Lot of respect among everyone. Only in terms of work ethics.
In terms of human relationship. Zero. Nobody wished me good morning because if they did they would
get "what do you need", "state your intention", "is something left to be done".
Edgy but important for work.

Come this girl. She really wanted to get my attention, which she did and things happened mentioned above in original post.

Since I wanted to get laid and made it clear, she had to push and finally block me out. Because of her "constraints".

I decided to leave since there was no motivation left. On the last day i got applause and negative reviews . She mentioned "intelligent person"(which doesn't get you laid, remember this).

No last moment talk. No call for day one after exit. I am expecting nothing now. Even if she does, time has passed too much for sticking around.

I will write an article for "Arrogant, egotistical and intelligent" people who don't get laid. What I have learned is, yes you have to bit ****y and arrogant(negging thoery) in attracting girls which I naturally do, but then once you get them in your circle you have to show care which i totally didn't do. I went straight up to sex and what not. Should have listened to her bull**** more but I really didn't have time and patience for that. So next chance, I guess I have to lay some time and buy some patience from ears and eyes. I shall remember this.
That environment aint the best for social. Be around the masters. Part time job in auto sales gets you round the sharks. Or hanging with the salesmen in your company at the bar.
 

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Pajeet,

What part of the world is this happening in?
 
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