Still refering to the neighbor girl in my last thread. I asked her what she was doing this weekend. And she told me she had some thing fri, but wasn't busy any other day. I was thinking about inviting her along with me to a party or maybe a movie, should I get her number first?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Asking out over myspace = lame?
- Thread starter Circa
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
get the number
logicallefty
Moderator
Get the number and minimize the computer geek communication. I had another thread going in Mature Man just within the past few weeks and the guys recommended that I cut out the email. And with this one chick I am seeing I have done just that and I think it's doing the trick..
She even commented that "it sure is nice to hear your voice once in a while!" I hate to take credit for another brother's tip which is why I mentioned this!
Here, however, is one that I made up and have used:
"My doctor told me at my last checkup that I need to cut out some of the technology in my life.. It's causing my mouth to slowly develop an overbite and I have also shown signs of some extra snorting that I never used to do when I was younger. Why don't you help me out here by giving me your number and cutting a little bit of technology out of the picture for me, just like the doctor ordered? You want to help me out don't ya?"
She even commented that "it sure is nice to hear your voice once in a while!" I hate to take credit for another brother's tip which is why I mentioned this! Here, however, is one that I made up and have used:
"My doctor told me at my last checkup that I need to cut out some of the technology in my life.. It's causing my mouth to slowly develop an overbite and I have also shown signs of some extra snorting that I never used to do when I was younger. Why don't you help me out here by giving me your number and cutting a little bit of technology out of the picture for me, just like the doctor ordered? You want to help me out don't ya?"
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.