Still refering to the neighbor girl in my last thread. I asked her what she was doing this weekend. And she told me she had some thing fri, but wasn't busy any other day. I was thinking about inviting her along with me to a party or maybe a movie, should I get her number first?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Asking out over myspace = lame?
- Thread starter Circa
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
get the number
logicallefty
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Get the number and minimize the computer geek communication. I had another thread going in Mature Man just within the past few weeks and the guys recommended that I cut out the email. And with this one chick I am seeing I have done just that and I think it's doing the trick..
She even commented that "it sure is nice to hear your voice once in a while!" I hate to take credit for another brother's tip which is why I mentioned this!
Here, however, is one that I made up and have used:
"My doctor told me at my last checkup that I need to cut out some of the technology in my life.. It's causing my mouth to slowly develop an overbite and I have also shown signs of some extra snorting that I never used to do when I was younger. Why don't you help me out here by giving me your number and cutting a little bit of technology out of the picture for me, just like the doctor ordered? You want to help me out don't ya?"
She even commented that "it sure is nice to hear your voice once in a while!" I hate to take credit for another brother's tip which is why I mentioned this! Here, however, is one that I made up and have used:
"My doctor told me at my last checkup that I need to cut out some of the technology in my life.. It's causing my mouth to slowly develop an overbite and I have also shown signs of some extra snorting that I never used to do when I was younger. Why don't you help me out here by giving me your number and cutting a little bit of technology out of the picture for me, just like the doctor ordered? You want to help me out don't ya?"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.