"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asking girls out that you will have to see even if they say no?

Aspiring_DJ

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So what do you guys suggest about asking girls out that are either in your class or in your dorm.( im in college) The reason why I ask is because if they say no then you get to be that guy for the rest of the semester and if she says yes and you have her wanting you every second you can't avoid her because you will have to see her anyway. Any ideas?

Edit: after thinking about this I think you guys are going to tell me that looking at it like this is AFC.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I thought the same way you did when I first started college. But let me tell you my experience, if you play it cool then they you can still be cool with them. But if you keep thinking that you're 'that guy' then it will show and make you seem creepy.
 

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Monster said:
I thought the same way you did when I first started college. But let me tell you my experience, if you play it cool then they you can still be cool with them. But if you keep thinking that you're 'that guy' then it will show and make you seem creepy.
So should i go ahead and ask them out? Obviously I can only pick a certain few b/c then everyone will know that i ask everyone out. But the way you put it I may get put in the LJBF zone.
 

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things will only be ackward if YOU MAKE them ackward, be cool, and everything will be cool
 

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and why are you even thinking about a girl saying no anyway? just assume she'll say yes and you won't have to worry!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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