"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does saying "can i have your number" really effect women in a huge way. I am wondering because i was talking with this girl (first approach) after she was giving me very good signals of interest and things were very good until i droped the question. She simply said "i will talk with you later" and we parted ways. I have a really hard time believing that just one damn line makes you look bad or needy.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yea it is hard to believe but for the most part if you ask a hb this question most of the time unless she is really into you or wants to play you fool, she will not give it out. I mean think about it how many times do you think she is asked this by other guys on a weekly/monthly basis probably quite a few times. So its just coming up with a clever different approach to getting her contact information than rather to just blatently ask for it out of the blue. :nono: :kick:
 
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Yeah you have to find a situation to ask for her number. If you really click with her and both of you agree that you should see each other again, then asking her number shouldn't be a problem. David Deangelo suggest pretinding to walk away then turn around and asking her, well that might work too it all depends on the girl
 
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Begin with the end in mind, plot out how you want it to turn out. Just be firm and upfront about it, they already know what you want so there is no use in beating around the bush, just say it. You're not asking them a question, you want to make a statement e.g. "We should get together on X at X, whats your number?".
 
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yeah it does effect girls in a huge way. Instead of asking for her number, you should suggest that she gives it to you (EX. You should give me you number so we can chill sometime). So dont ask, suggest.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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asking for number = AFC.
Telling her to give you her number is the way to go!
 
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So do any of you think there is a chance of a rebound from something like this. I see this girl around so is it a good idea to approach her and ask for a straight answer, no bull****, or maybe act like nothing happened and keep trying to get to know her more. Wouldnt an AFC just give up the first time?
 
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