Does saying "can i have your number" really effect women in a huge way. I am wondering because i was talking with this girl (first approach) after she was giving me very good signals of interest and things were very good until i droped the question. She simply said "i will talk with you later" and we parted ways. I have a really hard time believing that just one damn line makes you look bad or needy.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Asking for her number
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yea it is hard to believe but for the most part if you ask a hb this question most of the time unless she is really into you or wants to play you fool, she will not give it out. I mean think about it how many times do you think she is asked this by other guys on a weekly/monthly basis probably quite a few times. So its just coming up with a clever different approach to getting her contact information than rather to just blatently ask for it out of the blue. :nono: :kick:
paraguayandj
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Yeah you have to find a situation to ask for her number. If you really click with her and both of you agree that you should see each other again, then asking her number shouldn't be a problem. David Deangelo suggest pretinding to walk away then turn around and asking her, well that might work too it all depends on the girl
white cloud 8
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Begin with the end in mind, plot out how you want it to turn out. Just be firm and upfront about it, they already know what you want so there is no use in beating around the bush, just say it. You're not asking them a question, you want to make a statement e.g. "We should get together on X at X, whats your number?".
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yeah it does effect girls in a huge way. Instead of asking for her number, you should suggest that she gives it to you (EX. You should give me you number so we can chill sometime). So dont ask, suggest.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
brenbaus
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asking for number = AFC.
Telling her to give you her number is the way to go!
Telling her to give you her number is the way to go!
So do any of you think there is a chance of a rebound from something like this. I see this girl around so is it a good idea to approach her and ask for a straight answer, no bull****, or maybe act like nothing happened and keep trying to get to know her more. Wouldnt an AFC just give up the first time?