Master Don Juan
- Sep 16, 2005
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- Mile High City, USA
Interesting conundrum with no 100% correct scenario, solution, or answer. After ruminating on this a while, this is what I would do:Lots of fights, walking on egg shells, insults, threats...... everything that a woman would do to a weak guy. Probably my problem is that I have not been willing to walk away and it showes. As I write that I would almost go to tears.
1- Obviously the marriage has gone stale--as they ALL do and wifey wants some excitement. This is the bottom line and backdrop. I'm sure the sex has fallen off as has the spontaneity, romance, etc., etc. 99% of marriages go through this with probably 60% getting divorced, 30% painfully living through it because of kids, fear, co-dependency, and 10% successfully finding their way "somewhat" (never fully) back to a decent (never "good") situation.
2- You're become very docile and beta in her mind. What we refer to as "blue pill." This is repulsive to women, unless they give up or want an orbiter, then they’ll settle usually for a beta male provider, which I’m afraid you’ve become. Instinctively, they want "real men" which is why women date and stay with ass*holes, thugs, abusers, losers, etc.--they exude a form of masculinity and high testosterone the beta male does not. You cannot simply cannot fight DNA and tens of thousands of years of evolution. Women can't help it, their DNA screams "F*uck the alpha!!" It's not until much later, that reality sets in and now they’re a single mommy with 3 kids and a deadbeat long-gone dad, what we call "Alpha Widowed." And riding to the rescue? The beta male provider!!
3- This is BIG: You said you're in charge of investments, retirement accounts, etc. Start liquidating in non-traceable cash or in physical assets like gold bars, coins—something tangible. Seriously. She can’t lay claim to what's not there if/when she divorces you which she probably will eventually do. When it comes up later on, as it might, tell her you lost it. Nothing she can really do. Tell her you lost a ton of money betting on NFL games and you're really sorry. You’re getting help and you’ll quit. I know a guy who did this, the gold bars, fake betting story and everything, and it worked like a charm.
4- Fuc*king the other guy’s wife is a really bad idea on many levels. First, she has to go for it which is probably very low percentage. Then, when you fail, she'll tell her husband and your wife and all hell will break loose. She’ll accuse you of adultery, divorce you, and take half your s*hit including retirement, property, and your future earnings. It will get really bad for you in court when she tells the judge of your philandering actions. All for what? Revenge? BAD IDEA. You're better off looking at Seeking Arrangement and f*ucking a stupid college girl a few times for $300 a throw. Many will even do it for free, but another story.
5- Because your wife sees you as weak and beta, sneaking around isn't the way. SHOCK and AWE is. Seriously. If it were me, and I'm an admittedly very assertive and a sometimes very aggressive man, I would:
Go over to the guys house when his wife is there. Play Mr. Nice Guy and have him invite you in. Then, when you're sitting there on the couch or patio. I would ask him point blank why he's taken such an interest in your wife, cite some examples of your observations, and make sure his wife hears you. Get him back pedaling and put him on the defensive. Tell him what you’ve witnessed and that you don't like it. Don't debate or argue--JUST STATE. Got it? Then, stand up, get in his space (maybe 4 inches from his face), point your finder in his face and say (verbatim), "If I EVER, EVER, find out there is or was something going on between you and (wife) I'm going to chop your balls off and shove them down your f*ucking throat. Ok, pumpkin?" Say goodbye to his wife and calmly walk out of the house. I actually did something like this once and it worked 100% perfect and according to plan, only I ended up beating up the guy in his own house. Then calmly left.
5- When wife confronts you all upset, pretend it doesn't bother you and just tell her, "I took care of it."
Two highly probable outcomes:
1- She’ll ask for a divorce (65%). So what. The marriage was in a tail spin anyway. But now you've hidden assets so she can't as*s-rape you in court quite as bad. Do the best you can to protect yourself and get on with your life on YOUR TERMS now. I'm over 40 and trust me, there are A LOT of women in their 20's, 30's and hot ones in their 40's that are looking for fun, sex, and relationships. Live a little without the oppression for once.
2- She'll be very mad, but inside will actually be strangely impressed and re-attracted based on your think big and kick ass new attitude (35%). It will take time, but she may actually come to respect you more---IF you don't cave and go all beta-retard again. Get it? She'll think you challenged another man and "protected" her (remember the DNA thing?) and women instinctively like it, if you act like a MAN about it and not a bi*tch (cry, whine, complain--only). Tacitly show her that you're not afraid to throw hands with another man who's trying to break up your family, marriage, and take what you've got. Only a chump would watch another man do this.
This is precisely what I would do. The other option is to continue to let her drag you around and make you her cuck, but I fear she already has. Take back your masculinity and power and STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. We only have one life to live, f*uck man, don't base your success as a man on the acceptance and approval of one woman. Life is WAY too short.