"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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calimartin

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Question: do you think its good to ask female members of your family for advice on women (i.e. what to wear, etc.)? I feel that sisters / mothers / cousins will always have this idea as that little weiner and would not know what's best / good for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blinkwatt

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calimartin said:
Question: do you think its good to ask female members of your family for advice on women (i.e. what to wear, etc.)? I feel that sisters / mothers / cousins will always have this idea as that little weiner and would not know what's best / good for you.
Nope, I wouldn't ask family for help. They will want to know how it went and so on,basically they will try to stay in your business. That's what we are here for. Find a good buddy to seek help,make sure he has expierence though.
 

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I disagree.

I think asking sisters/cousins on what to wear would be a good idea. As for love advice, no. Keep the game to yourself, but who says you can't get help with your wardrobe?

-LC
 

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My Dad's been a good advocate on advice with girls. Basically, don't get married until you are damn sure she's the one, and have fun while you're waiting.
 

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Never ask mom for help!!!!

Your mom will try to make you the best man you could be for a wife!!

Sisters are good help with certain things, but just keep in mind that most of the time they are going to say the things that sound right. Hardly ever will a woman tell the facts, 'cause they are subconcious. They honestly believe them, but subconciously there wrong.

Safe questions for sisters and cousins are Physical traits, Personality, but not specifics.

Again Never ask mom... Some exceptions do excist but treat acordingly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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calimartin

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Thanks guys -- also what I am thinking is that getting help from someone from the opposite sex but with the same gene pool will not give sound advice, as we are all looking for the most diverse genes to "mingle" with.
 

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Ask gay men.
 

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don't ask woman, related or not, for dating advice, unless you want more afc bullSh!t.

I used to ask women for advice, but its all wrong. They will tell you what woman want. Not what guys should give, theres a huge difference.
 
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