"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Asking a girl to go out flat
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Make sure you have some kind of rapport already built with her. I would never go up to a girl I didn't know and ask her for a date right off the bat. She doesn't know anything about you, and you don't know anything about her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
When I ask a girl out, I'm asking her out to go play pool or something. That can be pretty much done flat out. Within a few minutes of meeting her.
Are you asking for exclusivity? That is something else entirely.
Kev07
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You have nothing to lose
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
darkjedi
Don Juan
This advice is golden. Before I joined this site, I figured ultimatums were the way to go... They're not. What worked for my past relationship was just to keep dating and after a month she asked me to be exclusive. I also noticed that's how many other guys I know hooked up with their woman.Bvbidd said:Ultimatums are a turn off. Don't.
A woman if her interest is high enough will ask "YOU" for the relationship.
The problem with this is the fact that it's long distance... and i don't want to "date" if there isn't enough interest to begin with. so basically what i want to know is if i should ask her "if there is anything worth pursuing".
thanks in advance,
Atldude
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
It's a double standard but it's true. Sometimes i feel like its total bull****, but i never go against it, because i know better. I've learned from experience.darkjedi said:This advice is golden. Before I joined this site, I figured ultimatums were the way to go... They're not. What worked for my past relationship was just to keep dating and after a month she asked me to be exclusive. I also noticed that's how many other guys I know hooked up with their woman.
A woman if her interest is high enough will ask "YOU" for the relationship.
In the end, we all have to figure it out for ourselves to believe it. We can't just trust some dude on a forum that we've never met in our life.
So, if you want.... try but when you fail, try to learn something from it. Don't go doing the same thing. There's an Emerson quote that says: "All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better."
A better way to see if she's interested is to see if she'll come over to your town just for a date. Then you know she's really interested.
I don't think you asking her for exclusivity is the way to go.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.