"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Asking a girl to go out flat
- Thread starter Atldude
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Make sure you have some kind of rapport already built with her. I would never go up to a girl I didn't know and ask her for a date right off the bat. She doesn't know anything about you, and you don't know anything about her.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
When I ask a girl out, I'm asking her out to go play pool or something. That can be pretty much done flat out. Within a few minutes of meeting her.
Are you asking for exclusivity? That is something else entirely.
Kev07
Master Don Juan
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You have nothing to lose
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
darkjedi
Don Juan
This advice is golden. Before I joined this site, I figured ultimatums were the way to go... They're not. What worked for my past relationship was just to keep dating and after a month she asked me to be exclusive. I also noticed that's how many other guys I know hooked up with their woman.Bvbidd said:Ultimatums are a turn off. Don't.
A woman if her interest is high enough will ask "YOU" for the relationship.
The problem with this is the fact that it's long distance... and i don't want to "date" if there isn't enough interest to begin with. so basically what i want to know is if i should ask her "if there is anything worth pursuing".
thanks in advance,
Atldude
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
It's a double standard but it's true. Sometimes i feel like its total bull****, but i never go against it, because i know better. I've learned from experience.darkjedi said:This advice is golden. Before I joined this site, I figured ultimatums were the way to go... They're not. What worked for my past relationship was just to keep dating and after a month she asked me to be exclusive. I also noticed that's how many other guys I know hooked up with their woman.
A woman if her interest is high enough will ask "YOU" for the relationship.
In the end, we all have to figure it out for ourselves to believe it. We can't just trust some dude on a forum that we've never met in our life.
So, if you want.... try but when you fail, try to learn something from it. Don't go doing the same thing. There's an Emerson quote that says: "All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better."
A better way to see if she's interested is to see if she'll come over to your town just for a date. Then you know she's really interested.
I don't think you asking her for exclusivity is the way to go.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.