Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Asking a girl to be ur GF

illmatic1005

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do you just say to a girl "would you be my girlfriend' or 'would you go out with me?" if you want to get together?

those lines sound like something a 13 year old would say...

BUT

What would a true DJ say?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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illmatic1005 said:
do you just say to a girl "would you be my girlfriend' or 'would you go out with me?" if you want to get together?

those lines sound like something a 13 year old would say...

BUT

What would a true DJ say?
And how old is the true DJ?
 
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Never verbalize a romantic interest!!! If you are having sex, then she is just another hor and no commitment should be expressed!!!
 

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Dude a true DJ doesn't say anything of the kind. A true DJ waits until she brings it up, brushes it off, and when she brings it up again, assuming at least 2 months has gone by, you talk about it.

But you don't start that stuff, don't say "I love you" first, don't talk about taking the relationship to the next level, nuttin' like that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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illmatic1005 said:
lol..i never asked a girl out..we just assumed
In fact, let the woman worry if you're going to be exclusive with her.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
lol..i never asked a girl out..we just assumed

good

keep doing what your doing and don't change a thing
 

illmatic1005

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Real said:
good

keep doing what your doing and don't change a thing

she said she wants a LTR with me..one that would last longer than 2 weeks too...

any advice?
 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1249729#post1249729

She wants a man, so don't be a needy wuss. Never ask a woman for commitment.

If you want her to be your gf, here's what you do: have sex with her. Then act like it is no big deal. Then have sex with her again a few days later. After you repeat this process a few times, then you become her bf without ever having the 'will you be my gf?' conversation.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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