"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asking a girl out on facebook

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johncrawford

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I used to work at a bar a few months ago and meet this girl.
I always thought that the guy she was with was her boyfriend.
Used to smile at me and turn her head my way to see if I was looking at her!

I bumped into her a while ago at my local bar/restaurant but only got her name because I was with my mother! Felt like there was a vibe there.She saw me first.She turned away then looked back again!
Sent her a message on facebook but said something about her supposed boyfriend so no reply.

Decided yesterday just to send a friend request and she added!

It says she is single and looking for friends!

Should I ask her out and how should I phrase it?

Thanks guys for any assistance that you may be able to give.

John:up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I would say first get a response from her before you message her for a date (I would try to the number, and call to ask for the date). Make it a small talk message. Keep it light and fun and only a few sentences.. Guage her reply for her IL (which can be tough).. Then next msg say you'd like to catch up and "what is your number?"...

Or she may be one of those people that posts their number on their profile, which would be even easier!
 
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id get her to IM with you....emails take to long, IM are well.........instant, then hit her up for her digits.
 
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