Asking a girl from Starbucks out

[lexluciano]

Theres this girl in Starbucks who I think is cute & single. Imma cut to the chase...what's the best approach to take things to the next level?

 

[ilikecharlene]

Get to know her, and give her your number.

 

[lexluciano]

good thought! Because I was thinkin' it would look wack if I were to shoot a few comments here & there and then execute by asking for her number in one day.

Now that I think of it, its important to try and talk to her maybe about two weeks or what not and then slowly move in for the kill.

But you said to: GIVE HER MY NUMBER?? Shouldn't it be the other way around.

 

[Down Low]

Gentleman's Rule #23: Don't bother the help.

 

[EvilAgenda]

It doesn't matter what you say. Stop analyzing and thinking, just ask her.

 

[theanomaly]

Are we talking a chick who works there or a regular? If she's a regular, check out this post and do what it says...

Why You Need to Talk to Everyone…

Honestly, this works with chicks who are at work too. It works on every chick, you just need something a lot of us dudes don't have...patience.

 

[TempestNight]

Get to know her, and give her your number.

Thought guys should never give out their numbers to girls, as you are now playing her game and you have to wait for her to call you, which is rare since chicks almost always have low IL at the beginning.

What I would do is just be upfront about it, ask her when her shift is over, ask for her number and say she should join you for tea/drinks after her shift is done.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Nope, if you instruct her to call you at a certain time your being dominant and if she doesn't call shes a.) Not interested or b.)Cant follow instructions.

So just have a small conversation, ask her when she gets off work and instruct her to call you later that evening. That simple.

 

[dibs]

Last night I got one of the baristas numbers my local Starbucks. I asked her for it.

She wasn't at the counter. She was at the cream/sugar area.

There were clear signs that let me know it was a possibility. She smiled when I walked in and got nervous when I was getting my sugar. I wouldn't just randomly ask one of the baristas.

One thing that probably helped was that I made the other barista laugh as she got my coffee. She had her dread locks balled up into a bun and I told her that her hair reminded me of a cinnamon roll. Then I asked her if she ever put white glaze on it.

 

[lexluciano]

Nope, if you instruct her to call you at a certain time your being dominant and if she doesn't call shes a.) Not interested or b.)Cant follow instructions.

So just have a small conversation, ask her when she gets off work and instruct her to call you later that evening. That simple.

See the thing with me is the execution part..lol

I got no problem doin what you said...its just that there are other people & her coworkers lookin'. I just hate that whole audience thang when people are like "ooohhhh shyt". lol

I notice she's the one that seems to be mixing the drinks in the back and she ain't the one who yells your name out to hand the drinks to you. So i guess my next question is what's a good way to MOVE IN for a conversation with her one on one??? Because its hella of a gamble to catch her alone when she's wiping tables. Unless I ask one of her coworkers to help me get her??? What it do ya'll????

 

[dibs]

See the thing with me is the execution part..lol

I got no problem doin what you said...its just that there are other people & her coworkers lookin'. I just hate that whole audience thang when people are like "ooohhhh shyt". lol

I notice she's the one that seems to be mixing the drinks in the back and she ain't the one who yells your name out to hand the drinks to you. So i guess my next question is what's a good way to MOVE IN for a conversation with her one on one??? Because its hella of a gamble to catch her alone when she's wiping tables. Unless I ask one of her coworkers to help me get her??? What it do ya'll????

People don't say **** when you ask for a girls number as long as you don't act sad if you don't get it. Most people usually are like, "Whoa, that guys got balls."

Just order something she'll have to make. When she starts preparing your drink say something funny/observant/unusual to her. When you do this look at her and smile.
If she smiles back take it as an invitation to say something else. Start some light chit chat. Tell her she has excellent coffee handling technique. Tell her you must know her secret and that you should meet up some time.

If she doesn't smile back or seems pestered just walk away and be proud you at least had the guts to approach.

 

[BigJimbo]

A barista at Starbucks. The only cute ones are guys. Seriously. As they say, "As rare as a straight man who works at Starbucks".

Another reason why I encourage all those stuck in America to quit fighting it and just go gay. Some of you are young enough where you might actually get a rich married man to take you to nice hotels and bars.

Seriously, I am not being funny. How many of you have EVER seen an attractive female who works at Starbucks? Even in Moscow the female Starbucks' baristas look weird. Now, Starlite Diner in Moscow might have some young waitresses who could tempt an American guy. Even TGIF's in Moscow could do it. Hell, KFC in Moscow...BUT...Starbucks? Uh, never. Blasphemy! It is a Starbucks' rule that every female barista must be weird. Weird in that spooky way that makes you not want to go back to that same Starbucks. Same goes for any female who works at an Apple store. AVOID!

BTW, Starbucks suck. Even in Canada there are better options (Caffè Art Java in Montreal is superior). But, in corporate America you only have Starbucks. In Manhattan you only have Starbucks! Well, there is a nice Nespresso on the Upper East Side that I love. Me and the tribe all hang there and laugh at the outsiders. Good times. Hell, best times when I have to be in Manhattan.

http://caffeartjava.com/
There you go, guys. A travel tip. When in Montreal try this place. Simple, cheap, and good. Nice simple vibe. Great sweats and wonderful coffee. Beats the s--- out of Starbucks.

http://www.starlite.ru/
When in Moscow every American must go hear. An authentic Jersey diner flown in from New Jersey! Stuck in a little park by a Metro. Easy to get to. Open late. Good food as well. If only America was this cool.

http://www.restaurantsinyc.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/nespresso.jpg
You can find BigJimbo in this place when in Manhattan. The food is really good and the coffee is served in a nice manner. Bathrooms are in the middle to the right. I like that because I go to the bathroom a lot. :moon:

 

[lexluciano]

People don't say **** when you ask for a girls number as long as you don't act sad if you don't get it. Most people usually are like, "Whoa, that guys got balls."

Just order something she'll have to make. When she starts preparing your drink say something funny/observant/unusual to her. When you do this look at her and smile.
If she smiles back take it as an invitation to say something else. Start some light chit chat. Tell her she has excellent coffee handling technique. Tell her you must know her secret and that you should meet up some time.

If she doesn't smile back or seems pestered just walk away and be proud you at least had the guts to approach.

And i should make small talk with her for about like a month or so right before I ask her number or ask her number right then and there?

how bout if I just happen to ask one of her coworkers to give me her number if she's not around?....nah that would be creepy now that i think about it

 

[Deep Dish]

BigJimbo:
A barista at Starbucks. The only cute ones are guys...

Seriously, I am not being funny. How many of you have EVER seen an attractive female who works at Starbucks? Even in Moscow the female Starbucks' baristas look weird. Now, Starlite Diner in Moscow might have some young waitresses who could tempt an American guy. Even TGIF's in Moscow could do it. Hell, KFC in Moscow...BUT...Starbucks? Uh, never. Blasphemy! It is a Starbucks' rule that every female barista must be weird. Weird in that spooky way that makes you not want to go back to that same Starbucks. Same goes for any female who works at an Apple store. AVOID!

BTW, Starbucks suck.

Chalk it up to personal difference of subjective cup of teas, but there are people whose opinions differ from yours. Yes there are cute Starbucks barista chicks, but not many, and if you think Starbucks baristas are weird strange then god forbid you ever visit indie hippy hipster coffee shops. Personally I do both. Indie coffee shops are cozier, and have open mike, bands, improv comedy, but I like the music, iced chai’s, and white chocolate mochas of Starbucks, and have visited Starbucks throughout Germany and Prague. The one in Prague was cute.

 

[lexluciano]

YOU GUYS!!!!!

this shyt is hard! lol...Today i was at Starbucks and I was doing my work just observing the scene.

Difficult Reasons:
- i dont even know her schedule to a point where i know she's working to initiate contact (except Saturday mornings)
- its hard to get her isolated knowing that she's the mixer
- its hard to even strike up a conversation with her especially with a gathered crowd forming...but it usually dies down. Yet, when it dies down...she never comes up to wipe tables or what not

HOW ABOUT:
+ if I ask one of her coworkers straight up if her coworker who im interested in is single or not?
+ sit on a table closets to the bathroom in order to get her attention for a conversation
+ sit close to the exit so that when she's done with her shift, I can talk to her as she's walking out.
BUT!!! ANSWER ME THIS....I wanna ask her phone number right then and there if I happen to catch her at a conversation aka our FIRST CONVERSATION but I don't know how to go about doing it.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Here is something that I came up with with a lot of observation.

The best chance to bag a female is the first time you ever see her. The reason this is because you haven't put her on any pedestal. If you see a chick and you regret not getting her number the first time then in your mind you put her on a little pedestal. "When is the next time I'm going to see her, What am I going to say, What will I do" are all subjects that come to mind. And to be honest all these visions about the situation can be focused on more productive things.

To be honest I think you shot yourself in the foot by focusing too much on this situation.

 

[lexluciano]

Here is something that I came up with with a lot of observation.

The best chance to bag a female is the first time you ever see her. The reason this is because you haven't put her on any pedestal. If you see a chick and you regret not getting her number the first time then in your mind you put her on a little pedestal. "When is the next time I'm going to see her, What am I going to say, What will I do" are all subjects that come to mind. And to be honest all these visions about the situation can be focused on more productive things.

To be honest I think you shot yourself in the foot by focusing too much on this situation.

true...

now can you explain in detail how you would bag zee female based on the scenarios i chalked up??

Because i can turn the pedestal off by just tryna attack her for a convo. No prob. Yet it would look awkward tryna force something.

 

[Iceberg]

To be honest I think you shot yourself in the foot by focusing too much on this situation.

Seriously.

When you're this invested in a girl who doesn't even know your name, it's bound to fail.

Could you imagine sitting in a coffee shop for hours just for the purpose of possibly striking a conversation with a girl? This guy needs more options.

true...

now can you explain in detail how you would bag zee female based on the scenarios i chalked up??

Because i can turn the pedestal off by just tryna attack her for a convo. No prob. Yet it would look awkward tryna force something.

I wouldn't bag the female with the scenarios you chalked up. They sound awkward and forced by nature. If you want to talk to her, then go up and talk to her. Ask her about coffee. I don't know. Just start a f**kin dialogue.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Nope, if you instruct her to call you at a certain time your being dominant and if she doesn't call shes a.) Not interested or b.)Cant follow instructions.

So just have a small conversation, ask her when she gets off work and instruct her to call you later that evening. That simple.

AJ, I like you (no homo) you generally give great advice; but I couldn't disagree with you more here.

No offense OP, but you seem like your scared of your own shadow at this point; there is NO WAY he will have the confidence to pull off a smooth Bond move like that.

Your advice should be more catered to the skill level of the poster and its obvious he's a newbie.






PIMP

 

[nightcrawler]

whip your **** out and ask her "u want some of this babes?"

if that doesn't work you can always next her, spin more platers, read more "how to be alpha" articles and continue on your quest to becoming a man with a sense of self worth.