"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asked to move in ALREADY!

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Anyway she asked me to move in today. I slept over her place tonight and were sitting on the couch watching Charlie and the chocolate factory with Johnny Depp great movie and im like:

Me: Im moving out of my parent’s house soon.

Her: (running her hands over my head. Oh yeh I just shaved my head today lol never had it shaved) Oh Yeh were to?

Me: Im going to find a room mate like some really hot girl.

Her: (playfully punches me) no seriously

Me: ill find something

Her: Why don’t you just move in here? You’re here half the week anyway and plus its free.

Me: I’ll think about it

Her: Im just saying..... i know its a lil fast but like

Me: Relax (cover her mouth with my hand) talk about this later

Her: blah blah blah

I made her shutup about it.

Anyway what do use think about that. Should I do it? she is right I was planning on moving out and she has a mad place and if I stay with her she’s paying everything so im saving $300 a week. On the other hand spending so much time together this early in the relationship could be bad.

Any advice?

Ninja out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would feel bad not helping out with anything e.g. rent for instance or buying groceries but, hey thats just me :eek:.
 

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Ey she want's to pay she has a good job she's rich who am i to say no?

Anyway il endup paying for some things if i decide to move in. Plus il reward her with a few serisis of multiple orgasms.

Ninja out
 

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Don't do it. It's still way too early in the relationship. Either you will get bored of her or she will get bored of you.

But more than that, you will be freeloading - it will get to a point where even if you are unhappy in the relationship, you won't want to break it off because of your living situation. Even worse, money will become an issue in the relationship and will likely cause a lot of fights later on down the line, especially if she is getting tired of supporting you.

Personal experience - don't do it so soon. Wait it out.

Besides - you really need to have your own place to exist. Think about it. You can't "go home and be alone" because home will be where she is. She will do the decorating, she will control the furniture, the heat, whatever.

You need your own place. It's golden.

~Sloopy
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
Ey she want's to pay she has a good job she's rich who am i to say no?

Anyway il endup paying for some things if i decide to move in. Plus il reward her with a few serisis of multiple orgasms.

Ninja out
Anyone who doesn't realize this guy is either:

A) Living in a fantasy world.

B) A troll, and totally making this shyt up

C) Lives vicariously through characters he sees on T.V. or in the movies.

Is just as crazy as he is. The things that supposedly happen to this guy are like scripts out of some movie.

First he blows his wad in some hot black chicks face, then his girlfriend of a week asks him to move in? They way he describes these things is outlandish.

You're a moron dude...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do not move in with your girlfriend.

Statistically, couples who move in pre-marriage are more likely to break-up than couples that live in separate places until they get married.
 

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jprjrjr,

Who cares, man. It just doesn't matter.

I had a hot 45 year-old woman who I met in a winter art class offer to come live in my apartment to get away from her husband. She said she'd pay for rent and cable and internet, etc. I didn't take it because I could smell the drama cooking, but it's 100% true. I still f*cked her though.

Some of us just put ourselves in weird situations where these kinds of things just happen. I know I do. A few weeks ago, my friend and I found ourselves being driven around downtown baltimore with a hot stripper behind the wheel and one of the biggest drug dealers in the city in the back seat. How did we get in that situation? If I went into it, you wouldn't believe me. But we were there. And yeah, I came on that stripper's face and she still calls me sometimes wanting to f*ck.

So who knows? Stuff like that just happens - maybe you should get out a little more often? Or maybe you're not adventurous enough. I dunno...

~Sloopy
 

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Originally posted by Sloopy
jprjrjr,

Who cares, man. It just doesn't matter.

I had a hot 45 year-old woman who I met in a winter art class offer to come live in my apartment to get away from her husband. She said she'd pay for rent and cable and internet, etc. I didn't take it because I could smell the drama cooking, but it's 100% true. I still f*cked her though.

Some of us just put ourselves in weird situations where these kinds of things just happen. I know I do. A few weeks ago, my friend and I found ourselves being driven around downtown baltimore with a hot stripper behind the wheel and one of the biggest drug dealers in the city in the back seat. How did we get in that situation? If I went into it, you wouldn't believe me. But we were there. And yeah, I came on that stripper's face and she still calls me sometimes wanting to f*ck.

So who knows? Stuff like that just happens - maybe you should get out a little more often? Or maybe you're not adventurous enough. I dunno...

~Sloopy
I get out plenty, but I don't end up in stupid ass situations like that.

You're both morons.
 

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Touche, sir, touche.

I have certainly ended up in some situations that were not too kosher.

But I don't regret it. The experience means a lot to me. I enjoy that part more than anything else.

I learn everytime - I dip into a world that is not necessarily my own, and then I can leave it any time I desire.

I'm not too worried - and I am most definitely NOT a moron, despite what you may think (and how do these message boards really give you the opportunity to think otherwise?). I'm not too worried. You do your thing and I'll do mine, and Black_Italian will do his - but I think it's a little unfair to judge this guy based on his experiences. He may be lying, he may not be - but in the end, there is really no difference between the two. Everyone on this board suspects that the things people say may not be real. I don't trust everyone 100% but on the same token I have no basis to distrust anybody 100%. So don't sweat it.

the end -


~Sloopy
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ninja, dont do it, wait until you are married, you will get bored of her and have to go back to sargin again!
 

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Ninja, dont do it, wait until you are married, you will get bored of her and have to go back to sargin again!
Ninja doesnt believe in love :woo:
 

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No one said anything about love, but you do get bored of a chick if you move in this soon!
 

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agreed......but Im saying you wont marry someone you dont love.

either he is fycking crazy or falling in love
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
agreed......but Im saying you wont marry someone you dont love.

either he is fycking crazy or falling in love
This is not true, one of my female friends said she will only marry a guy who makes over 6 digets a year, wether she loves him or not, she will make him love her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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im just saying he said he didnt want, need, or have a gf..now he entertaining having her move in after a weeK?!
 

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the only logical solution here then is that he is falling for this chick, that is the only thing I can think of
 

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moving in with someone is a big step
are you ready for that?
 

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the only logical solution here then is that he is falling for this chick, that is the only thing I can think of
that or he is lying! but I hope he is falling in love so he can join this side of the new Board war :)
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
First he blows his wad in some hot black chicks face, then his girlfriend of a week asks him to move in? They way he describes these things is outlandish.

You're a moron dude...
What have'nt you ever cu*mmed on a girls face? she was a 7.5 by the way so i would'nt say thats HOT.

Anyway yeh you guys are probably right. I will juet get a job and get my own place.

Ninja out
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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