"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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ohiobohio518 said:
Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
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"Hey, baby, a trial: For 2 (or a different number) weeks you and I are gf and bf, and after that, I'll decide if I want you on permanent basis or not."
Something like that.
 
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nono, you dont understand. i've been DATING her for a few weeks. i need to decide now what i want with her and im making my decision.

this is why i want to know how i do it. im making it OFFICIAL. i've never done this before. therefore i need advice.

i just need to know if, "will you be my gf" would suffice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OK Yes, i've seen that post. I've read the bible in its entirety. I'm not an AFC.

She wants me to decide. She came up to me and said:

"If you want something out of this, tell me. And if you're not gonna do anything about it, also tell me."

It is not a question of her interest level. She has confirmed time and time again, and even told me that she really likes me. She also said she wouldn't be comfortable if I foold around with other women for that exact reason.

My decision guys, mine. I just want to know how to do it.
 
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i already said in my previous post that SHE brought it up. i asked her what SHE wanted after she asked me and she said that it's "up to me." obviously - because i'm a senior going off to college and she's a junior. she thinks i have the final say.

oh i forgot i didnt specify that last part about how old i am vs. how old she is. i think it makes a difference. anyway, back to my original question? please??
 
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What do you want?

If you want her, tell her, if you don't, well then be on your merry way.

You already knew the answer before I told you, there's no need to find a special way to say it.

What did people like you do before this site was around, they did it themselves -_-
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dannowillbookem said:
she needs to bring it up, not you
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Very TRUE, I totally agree with this... if you want to make ur relationship "exclusvie or more serious" SHE has to def. bring it up otherwise it'll look to her that your the jealous insecure type. Just continue to go on dates with her, and try to see other women too so she'll get jealous.
 
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No! No! No! Man you never and i repeat NEVER ask a girl to become exclusive, always wait for her to make that step - its the ultimate IOI, while ever she DOSNT ask you to become exclusive, it means shes still open to seeing other people - you havent emotionally hooked her yet. Success with women is finding ONE that is truly interested in who YOU are, how will you ever know if shes interested if you ask her FIRST? No! Always wait for her to ask you , that is how you get to know her Interest Level - that is the way to happiness.

Sarge On...
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's action over words...act like you are her boyfriend. Now, I'm not saying smoother her with affection and love because it'll backfire on you. But, kiss her and act like a boyfriend..be a little more apart of her life, at the same time keeping your own life, etc.
 
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