"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ohiobohio518 said:
Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
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"Hey, baby, a trial: For 2 (or a different number) weeks you and I are gf and bf, and after that, I'll decide if I want you on permanent basis or not."
Something like that.
 
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nono, you dont understand. i've been DATING her for a few weeks. i need to decide now what i want with her and im making my decision.

this is why i want to know how i do it. im making it OFFICIAL. i've never done this before. therefore i need advice.

i just need to know if, "will you be my gf" would suffice.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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OK Yes, i've seen that post. I've read the bible in its entirety. I'm not an AFC.

She wants me to decide. She came up to me and said:

"If you want something out of this, tell me. And if you're not gonna do anything about it, also tell me."

It is not a question of her interest level. She has confirmed time and time again, and even told me that she really likes me. She also said she wouldn't be comfortable if I foold around with other women for that exact reason.

My decision guys, mine. I just want to know how to do it.
 
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i already said in my previous post that SHE brought it up. i asked her what SHE wanted after she asked me and she said that it's "up to me." obviously - because i'm a senior going off to college and she's a junior. she thinks i have the final say.

oh i forgot i didnt specify that last part about how old i am vs. how old she is. i think it makes a difference. anyway, back to my original question? please??
 
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What do you want?

If you want her, tell her, if you don't, well then be on your merry way.

You already knew the answer before I told you, there's no need to find a special way to say it.

What did people like you do before this site was around, they did it themselves -_-
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dannowillbookem said:
she needs to bring it up, not you
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Very TRUE, I totally agree with this... if you want to make ur relationship "exclusvie or more serious" SHE has to def. bring it up otherwise it'll look to her that your the jealous insecure type. Just continue to go on dates with her, and try to see other women too so she'll get jealous.
 
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No! No! No! Man you never and i repeat NEVER ask a girl to become exclusive, always wait for her to make that step - its the ultimate IOI, while ever she DOSNT ask you to become exclusive, it means shes still open to seeing other people - you havent emotionally hooked her yet. Success with women is finding ONE that is truly interested in who YOU are, how will you ever know if shes interested if you ask her FIRST? No! Always wait for her to ask you , that is how you get to know her Interest Level - that is the way to happiness.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's action over words...act like you are her boyfriend. Now, I'm not saying smoother her with affection and love because it'll backfire on you. But, kiss her and act like a boyfriend..be a little more apart of her life, at the same time keeping your own life, etc.
 
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