"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ohiobohio518 said:
Long story short, we both like each other.

I want her to be my girlfriend, but since I've only had unofficial relationships in the past, I am not familiar in the ways to ask someone to be my girlfriend. A few days ago, she asked what I want out of the whole thing, what am I to say?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"

I mean, I guess that's the only straight up way to say it.

"Will you go out with me?"

IDK. These are so blunt. All my friends generally just ask them to be their boy/girlfriend. Is it just that simple?
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"Hey, baby, a trial: For 2 (or a different number) weeks you and I are gf and bf, and after that, I'll decide if I want you on permanent basis or not."
Something like that.
 
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nono, you dont understand. i've been DATING her for a few weeks. i need to decide now what i want with her and im making my decision.

this is why i want to know how i do it. im making it OFFICIAL. i've never done this before. therefore i need advice.

i just need to know if, "will you be my gf" would suffice.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OK Yes, i've seen that post. I've read the bible in its entirety. I'm not an AFC.

She wants me to decide. She came up to me and said:

"If you want something out of this, tell me. And if you're not gonna do anything about it, also tell me."

It is not a question of her interest level. She has confirmed time and time again, and even told me that she really likes me. She also said she wouldn't be comfortable if I foold around with other women for that exact reason.

My decision guys, mine. I just want to know how to do it.
 
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i already said in my previous post that SHE brought it up. i asked her what SHE wanted after she asked me and she said that it's "up to me." obviously - because i'm a senior going off to college and she's a junior. she thinks i have the final say.

oh i forgot i didnt specify that last part about how old i am vs. how old she is. i think it makes a difference. anyway, back to my original question? please??
 
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What do you want?

If you want her, tell her, if you don't, well then be on your merry way.

You already knew the answer before I told you, there's no need to find a special way to say it.

What did people like you do before this site was around, they did it themselves -_-
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dannowillbookem said:
she needs to bring it up, not you
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Very TRUE, I totally agree with this... if you want to make ur relationship "exclusvie or more serious" SHE has to def. bring it up otherwise it'll look to her that your the jealous insecure type. Just continue to go on dates with her, and try to see other women too so she'll get jealous.
 
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No! No! No! Man you never and i repeat NEVER ask a girl to become exclusive, always wait for her to make that step - its the ultimate IOI, while ever she DOSNT ask you to become exclusive, it means shes still open to seeing other people - you havent emotionally hooked her yet. Success with women is finding ONE that is truly interested in who YOU are, how will you ever know if shes interested if you ask her FIRST? No! Always wait for her to ask you , that is how you get to know her Interest Level - that is the way to happiness.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's action over words...act like you are her boyfriend. Now, I'm not saying smoother her with affection and love because it'll backfire on you. But, kiss her and act like a boyfriend..be a little more apart of her life, at the same time keeping your own life, etc.
 
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