"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I dont know if she works or study. Not sure about her schedule at all. How would you ask her out?
I don't want to ask her out in a time where she is going to have conflict with her schedule nor I don't want to sound desperate. e.g.
me: I pick you up on Thurdsday at 8PM
she: No I'm busy.
me: How about Friday 12PM
she: No, I'm busy.
me: Sat?
she: Maybe
me: OK I pick you up at 6PM
she: Sorry I'm busy at this time.
.....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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read the ****ing rules:



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As we all know, this forum is designed to further assist you along your way to becoming a DJ. At certain times in our lives, things happen that we feel obligated to question - a girl's reaction to something you said or did that left you baffled, a technique you've just read about that you would like to have further clarified, or any manner of a number of other topics. Of course, you wouldn't make a new thread unless the subject mattered to you... so show us that it matters.

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Her interest level is low. If she liked you she'd make time or at least give you another time and date. If a women says she's busy never ask for another time right after.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You're thinking about this way too much. Decide on a time and ask her if she's free at that time (for example lunch at 12:30 on Friday) and if she isn't, ask her what her schedule looks like. If you think you're going to get rejected, you probably will, because you're setting your mind up to be rejected, and you'll emit all kinds of nervous behavior. Be more positive about it. The worst that can happen is she'll say no, and then you find that you don't have to waste any more time on a woman that isn't interested.
 

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OK called her and suggested Thursday at 8PM. She thought about it for 10 seconds and she says to call her on Wed. I said OK and said bye.
 

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Sounds like she's checking for better offers.
 

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She says is she busy. I said It's Ok maybe next time. Really sucks.

I feel like **** now.

I will get more numbers this week.
 

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escaleraroyal said:
She says is she busy. I said It's Ok maybe next time. Really sucks.

I feel like **** now.

I will get more numbers this week.
So.... What did you learn from this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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escaleraroyal said:
I think cause i just met her she is scared to go out with me.
So what's the plan for next time around?
 

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escaleraroyal said:
call her next time i guess or get more numbers on the street.
Don't call her. That road has been destroyed in a mudslide.

Go find new targets.

Maybe explain your initial encounter, what was it like? That way you can get some better feedback. However, sorry to say she lost interest. Maybe you didn't capture her thoughts after you #closed her as much as you should have. Or you waited to long to call her, so she simply lost interest over time. Or you came off as being needy and she was trying to gently let you down, but you failed to pick up on the social communication hints.
 

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escaleraroyal said:
call her next time i guess or get more numbers on the street.
You're going to do the same thing again, the same way? What do you expect will happen the next time?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Francisco, you sound like u know. tell me what to do?
btw, I went to the supermarket today. Did 3 approaches but they was not interested as they didn't ask questions back.
 

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escaleraroyal said:
Francisco, you sound like u know. tell me what to do?
btw, I went to the supermarket today. Did 3 approaches but they was not interested as they didn't ask questions back.

you gotta establish more rapport...

perhaps she just wasnt feeling u... no biggy.. plenty of fish out in the sea... :)
 

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What usually works for me, is to ask her when she works/ goes to school. After that say for example "Hey I'm free on Thursday night too, we should hang out." Or something similar......I personally use "Hey, I'm free Thursday night as well, and I am going to my favorite restaurant, you should join me."
 

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escaleraroyal said:
Francisco, you sound like u know. tell me what to do?
btw, I went to the supermarket today. Did 3 approaches but they was not interested as they didn't ask questions back.
Have you changed your approach or are you doing the same thing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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