"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ask her out on xmas

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this chick and i have been going out on dates for the past 3 months, just chillin and having fun. i keep it fun and i make fun of her and make her laugh so much. she ALWAYS says this little thing like every 5 minutes non stop so i got her this shirt of what she always says. i thought it was kind of thoughtful i dont know why but i think its alright. so when i give it to her, i want to give her a card and maybe another present that shows a little more meaning than just a shirt. i want to give the idea that i want a relationship with her. i want to ask her to be my gf when i give her the present on xmas. after all, it is xmas and i want to be just a little sweet. could someone help me out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by surface1030
this chick and i have been going out on dates for the past 3 months, just chillin and having fun. i keep it fun and i make fun of her and make her laugh so much. she ALWAYS says this little thing like every 5 minutes non stop so i got her this shirt of what she always says. i thought it was kind of thoughtful i dont know why but i think its alright. so when i give it to her, i want to give her a card and maybe another present that shows a little more meaning than just a shirt. i want to give the idea that i want a relationship with her. i want to ask her to be my gf when i give her the present on xmas. after all, it is xmas and i want to be just a little sweet. could someone help me out
u cant buy love, and she dont sound likea hooker so don try to buy sex.
:confused: what the hell are u thinking, ask her out now so maybe JUST MAYBE, you can start a LTR by christmas
AND THE SHIRT
is only good once u dating her for at least the minimum time..... since its christmas, a week. dont buy anymore, she isnt there for your money, and thats not the message u want to send her.
 
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Re: Re: ask her out on xmas

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
u cant buy love, and she dont sound likea hooker so don try to buy sex.
:confused: what the hell are u thinking, ask her out now so maybe JUST MAYBE, you can start a LTR by christmas
AND THE SHIRT
is only good once u dating her for at least the minimum time..... since its christmas, a week. dont buy anymore, she isnt there for your money, and thats not the message u want to send her.
I rarely understand what you're talking about.
 

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HAHA, O Fitch.

Seriously though, thats kinda... really sweet and nice... your bringing a tear to my eye. :rolleyes:

I don't have any advice, seems pretty AFC to me...
 

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i dont think it does seem any AFC becuase the only reason i want to be sweet is because i've talked to all of my girl-friends at school and they said to be as sweet as you can on xmas becuase its important. i honestly dont know why. i'm not sweet to this girl 24/7 because i have a life. i'm just doing it because the majority of girls in my school told me to be sweet to her on this one special day. so i came to you guys for a simple gift that says, "hey i care for you and so on".
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You guys say it seems AFC, but why? Because he's giving her a gift?

They've been dating for 3 months already. They're in a relationship, just not an exclusive one, and getting her a gift for Christmas, the most commercialized and, let's face it, important holiday in America is totally understandable.

good luck.
 
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Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne
You guys say it seems AFC, but why? Because he's giving her a gift?

They've been dating for 3 months already. They're in a relationship, just not an exclusive one, and getting her a <a style='text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 3px double;' href="http://www.serverlogic3.com/lm/rtl3.asp?si=5&k=gift%20for" onmouseover="window.status='gift for'; return true;" onmouseout="window.status=''; return true;">gift for</a> Christmas, the most commercialized and, let's face it, important holiday in America is totally understandable.

good luck.
dude did u read anything, EVEN THE THREAD TITLE,
they havent been dating at all, hes just been chillin wit her as a friend, getting her a gift is trying to buy love, especially if u ask her out right after:rolleyes: he needs to know u cant buy love, maybe he can give her the shirt for xmas n MAYBE if he plays his cards right can get into sumtin serious in time, but BUYING anything MORE than a TSHIRT is BUYING LOVE wich is not possible.
 
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Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
dude did u read anything, EVEN THE THREAD TITLE,
they havent been dating at all, hes just been chillin wit her as a friend
this chick and i have been going out on dates for the past 3 months, just chillin and having fun.
 
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