"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ask girl out on first phone call?

gimmeyofonenumba

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I cold approached this girl at school, her ride came and we didnt get to talk much but i got her number. We didnt build much rapport. Should i build more rapport in the phone call and then as her out later. Or just build more rapport in the call and ask her out at the same time?

-thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Obsidian

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whatever you do, don't call her up and talk for more than about 3-4 minutes
 
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First of all, let's take it one step first. You call her first and you'll likely get her answering machine - thus, don't worry about it, just call and either leave a message and ask her out in the message, or continue calling until you able to reach her in person.

You'll be doing fine if you able to even contact her, let alone asking her out.
 

kdnash82

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the purpose of calling is to set up a date. you build rapport on the date. 9/10 she won't answer the phone and you'll be forced to leave a message. i get creative with this.

"hey Susie, this is kdnash! i met you at the so and so the other day. we were talking about so and so. give me a call at ###-727-#### when you get this so i can" *hang up before you finish*

she'll call back wondering what happened or to find out the rest of the story and you can set up a date
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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