"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ask gf to teach me how to dance?

burtonsnow

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My girlfriend is a really good dancer and I'm not too experienced. Should I ask her to teach me or is that totally lame?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bunk 040

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If you want to learn then ask her!

Now me, I'm probably the best dancer there is. But when I am at a club or at a party I tell whichever girl I'm sarging that I can't dance and need someone to teach me. It's just a technique I developed back when I was shy and now I always use it.
 

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You don't think it would turn her off? The relationship is solid and we've been together for almost a year. My problem is I'm self-conscience, I can dance when I'm alone, but freeze up in front of girls I like for some sick reason. So in otherwords, it wouldn't be easy to ask her.
 

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Gotta start somewhere. The more you do something the more it becomes natural.
 

neobrood

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ask her to teach you.

I was goin out with this girl once who was really in to POKEMON cards...

I asked her to teach me how to play it...

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Pretend to be a slow learner sometimes but dont make it too obvious... lol...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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golf299

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i hope this is not a serious thread. sounds like you're a hardcore AFC to me. you have more issues than learning to dance. work on yourself and the dancing will come.
 

neobrood

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cmon man...

every1 starts at a certain level. I was at his level before (or even worse). Um... should I do this? Should I do that? Um... am I standing right? Am I smiling right? Um... my clothes... um... are they ok? What is she thinkin bout me? Is she thinkin im an idiot? um... eh... duh... lol...

:D
 

Raven125

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Originally posted by neobrood
ask her to teach you.

I was goin out with this girl once who was really in to POKEMON cards...

I asked her to teach me how to play it...

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Pretend to be a slow learner sometimes but dont make it too obvious... lol...
I sincerly hope this was in about 4th grade...
 

Vigilante7

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Originally posted by neobrood
nope... she's 19 :D
You make people from Toronto look bad...........:eek: :( :p :cool:

THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE THIS SITUATION:

1) Ask her to teach you !!! Youll have alot of girlfriends, if she is a good teacher, it will help you later on in life....

2) Since you dont wanna see beta.....you need to use push/pull theory which is polar oppsite comments....ex: when she is teaching you:

"Your not too bad a dancer...."

Later on....

"Oh i dont know if you can teach me, your too sexual BLAH BLAH"
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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NRM

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You've been in a relationship with your girlfriend for a year... and you still can't ask her to teach you something? Come on, if there was something you knew how to do well and she wanted to learn, would it hurt your interest?

You are simply worrying too much. Just ask her if you wanna learn. But don't pretend to be interested in something just to feel her up on the dance floor. You're already dating, you should have that already.
 

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Alright bud listen up. You already have the girls attention - YOU ARE DATING HER FOR A YEAR ALREADY. You have self confidence issues, yea you already said it. In order to get over those issues you gotta just get some balls to put it bluntly. I used to be very self-confident. But look, your already a step ahead.. YOU HAVE A GF FOR A YEAR NOW. So if you were ugly or uncool or whatever your insecurities are about you wouldnt have one. So in order to get over this ASK HER TO TEACH YOU. You gotta know in your head when you ask her that there is nothing wrong with it. If you are so insecure with her so much that you cannot even ask her to teach you to dance.. then maybe you need to evaluate your relationship. All in all, get some bigass balls and ask her knowing that your the man and that you asking her something trivial will not affect your relationship, if it does, then she is a shallow person.
 

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I think you probably want to ask her, otherwise you wouldn't have posted your question. So if you want to ask her, then just do it , are you man or a mouse? If she thinks its lame, well then it's she who has an attitude problem.
 

neobrood

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You make people from Toronto look bad...........
not really tho. Lemme make this clear: 99% OF PEOPLE FROM TORONTO ARENT LIKE THAT!!!

Therefore, like what the Donjuan bible said... something that is rare is precious. Therefore she is a rare find... :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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