burtonsnow
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My girlfriend is a really good dancer and I'm not too experienced. Should I ask her to teach me or is that totally lame?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ask gf to teach me how to dance?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you want to learn then ask her!
Now me, I'm probably the best dancer there is. But when I am at a club or at a party I tell whichever girl I'm sarging that I can't dance and need someone to teach me. It's just a technique I developed back when I was shy and now I always use it.
Now me, I'm probably the best dancer there is. But when I am at a club or at a party I tell whichever girl I'm sarging that I can't dance and need someone to teach me. It's just a technique I developed back when I was shy and now I always use it.
burtonsnow
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You don't think it would turn her off? The relationship is solid and we've been together for almost a year. My problem is I'm self-conscience, I can dance when I'm alone, but freeze up in front of girls I like for some sick reason. So in otherwords, it wouldn't be easy to ask her.
neobrood
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ask her to teach you.
I was goin out with this girl once who was really in to POKEMON cards...
I asked her to teach me how to play it...
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Pretend to be a slow learner sometimes but dont make it too obvious... lol...
I was goin out with this girl once who was really in to POKEMON cards...
I asked her to teach me how to play it...
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Pretend to be a slow learner sometimes but dont make it too obvious... lol...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
neobrood
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cmon man...
every1 starts at a certain level. I was at his level before (or even worse). Um... should I do this? Should I do that? Um... am I standing right? Am I smiling right? Um... my clothes... um... are they ok? What is she thinkin bout me? Is she thinkin im an idiot? um... eh... duh... lol...
every1 starts at a certain level. I was at his level before (or even worse). Um... should I do this? Should I do that? Um... am I standing right? Am I smiling right? Um... my clothes... um... are they ok? What is she thinkin bout me? Is she thinkin im an idiot? um... eh... duh... lol...
neobrood
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nope... she's 19
Vigilante7
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You make people from Toronto look bad...........Originally posted by neobrood
nope... she's 19
THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE THIS SITUATION:
1) Ask her to teach you !!! Youll have alot of girlfriends, if she is a good teacher, it will help you later on in life....
2) Since you dont wanna see beta.....you need to use push/pull theory which is polar oppsite comments....ex: when she is teaching you:
"Your not too bad a dancer...."
Later on....
"Oh i dont know if you can teach me, your too sexual BLAH BLAH"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've been in a relationship with your girlfriend for a year... and you still can't ask her to teach you something? Come on, if there was something you knew how to do well and she wanted to learn, would it hurt your interest?
You are simply worrying too much. Just ask her if you wanna learn. But don't pretend to be interested in something just to feel her up on the dance floor. You're already dating, you should have that already.
You are simply worrying too much. Just ask her if you wanna learn. But don't pretend to be interested in something just to feel her up on the dance floor. You're already dating, you should have that already.
Alright bud listen up. You already have the girls attention - YOU ARE DATING HER FOR A YEAR ALREADY. You have self confidence issues, yea you already said it. In order to get over those issues you gotta just get some balls to put it bluntly. I used to be very self-confident. But look, your already a step ahead.. YOU HAVE A GF FOR A YEAR NOW. So if you were ugly or uncool or whatever your insecurities are about you wouldnt have one. So in order to get over this ASK HER TO TEACH YOU. You gotta know in your head when you ask her that there is nothing wrong with it. If you are so insecure with her so much that you cannot even ask her to teach you to dance.. then maybe you need to evaluate your relationship. All in all, get some bigass balls and ask her knowing that your the man and that you asking her something trivial will not affect your relationship, if it does, then she is a shallow person.
CharmingBastard
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I think you probably want to ask her, otherwise you wouldn't have posted your question. So if you want to ask her, then just do it , are you man or a mouse? If she thinks its lame, well then it's she who has an attitude problem.
neobrood
Senior Don Juan
not really tho. Lemme make this clear: 99% OF PEOPLE FROM TORONTO ARENT LIKE THAT!!!
Therefore, like what the Donjuan bible said... something that is rare is precious. Therefore she is a rare find...
DaVinci
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I got a ton of pokemon cards from 4th grade I'm willing to sel. $$$. lol. Though I am serious if she names a good price.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
burtonsnow
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Thanks for the reality check guys, I will grow some nads.....