You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
nothing wrong with having some 'georgie24 alone time'georgie24 said:i let myself get to down about being alone on weekends so im hiding in the house until monday, im only stepping out for food and the gym
also trying not to FAP, been doing good almost a week without doing it
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
hey bud,georgie24 said:i forgot to mention im a bloated mess from the refeed
i dont want this to turn into a weekly pattern were i turn into a hermit on the weekends
us that are self employed have liberties to do what we want any day of the week
the appeal of "tgif" is gone i lost the enthusiasm for it years ago but 99% of society still does 9-5 during the week and lives for the weekends
im thinking about getting a part time job just to get into the swing and get the vibe
what you guys think?