asian,cougar interested in me....my dilemna

[DJnoob]

backstory,

been going to this poker room for many years. this asian,cougar showing interest lately i think by always sitting close to me, askinh for my name, age, and now she knows im single because i gave her a hint by saying something like "thats what i would tell my future wife."

she never showed this much interest before. not till after i lost 30lbs almost. or more..

so by now we have rapport, kino, accidental boob rub using my wrist that i purpisely initiated. and she didnt back away..

last night she said to wait for her after our poker session around 1 am. she said she would give me a ride to my car and i took her offer.

anyway, theres alot of details im gona leave out cuz its gona be long..

so...before all this took place, ive checked out her fb profile and says married. which is a big turn off. i tried to get her to say to me she is married at the poker table subtley by saying to her "oh im sure you have a loving husband who is happy for u" and she couldnt answer that with yes or no. and she not wearing any wedding ring.

she never brings up names of other men or "husband" in our convo..

----my diemna----
1. i,dont want to ask her if she is married because id hate to hear her lie..

2.,i dont wamt to mess with any married woman anymorw..

 

[cola]

Stop beating around bushes and over complicating your life with all this indirect sh*t.
Straight up ask her

"I want to date you, are you married or with someone?"

what's the worst that can happen? She tell your poker friends you did what men are suppose to do and asked her on a date? Who gives a f*ck.

Geez..

 

[DJnoob]

anyway, i'd like to be her friend still though regardless whether nothing romantic happens. She walked with me around the casino. Great great social proof. Nothing is wasted here.

 

[The Duke]

You need to get the basics down before you worry about social proof. Do what Cola said.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Yeah. You guys need to stop asking for advice and ignoring it. Cola gave you the best advice you're gonna get. The social proof you got from walking with her has nothing to do with the next step you should be taking.