Asian chick laments that in her 25 years, "not a single person has matched ... my extremely high standards ... what's going on?"

[MatureDJ]

 

[BaronOfHair]

She's a very attractive girl, who can increase her chances of locking down a dude who's neither a fellow Far Easterner nor- quite possibly-Haitian exponentially, by learning how to grill a first-rate sirloin, rather than expecting all the fellas she brings home to settle for Fried Callico

Modern women and contemporary men are united in our proclivity for getting stuck in theory, vehemently avoiding all discussion of the proverbial "brass tacks"

 

[Mike32ct]

She hasn’t been in the dating game for 25 years.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Maybe because she looks like a gray alien without clothes or makeup?

 

[SW15]

She is mid at best. She needs to lower her standards.

She hasn’t been in the dating game for 25 years.

She said she has been alive nearly 25 years, so she's 24 at the moment and about to turn 25. Realistically, she's been in the mating environment around 10 years.

 

[Plinco]

She is mid at best. She needs to lower her standards.

Or better yet, raise her standards on herself. Women underestimate how far a good personality can take them.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Or better yet, raise her standards on herself. Women underestimate how far a good personality can take them.

But the easy way out is ranting on social media and taking her frustrations out on men.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Everybody, dudes included, has been brainwashed by social media to believe they are 10x more valuable/attractive/desirable than they really are.

She is mid at best. She needs to lower her standards.

Pretty much the solution to all dating problems.

 

[Gamisch]

Tbh this kinda woman gets tiresome. Lil Miss entitled wants to turn good men down fir wearing the wrong socks, sneezing funny and bs like that. Expects " no low effort " first dates.

Thanks but no thanks. She can thank her female predecessors for the way men think now. As she admits: no sane man will burn his fingers on this ish anymore

 

[Clockwerk50]

Everybody, dudes included, has been brainwashed by social media to believe they are 10x more valuable/attractive/desirable than they really are.



Pretty much the solution to all dating problems.

It’s not just social media, it’s human nature. People have always seen themselves as better, more attractive, or more virtuous than they really are. Social media might amplify it, but the tendency to overestimate our own value has always been there. Being honest with ourselves is one of the hardest things to do.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

People have always seen themselves as better, more attractive, or more virtuous than they really are.

Kind of disagree.

Sure, that's true on a deep ego level.

But with respect to getting into relationships, up until the last couple of decades, people were forced to reconcile their "fantasy" selves with the results they got in the real world.

Before the internet and social media, it would have been pretty difficult to believe you are super gorgeous, etc., without ever actually being able to get a date.

The ego is the driving force, but the results we get in the world forced us (before social media) to be a bit more realistic.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Kind of disagree.

Sure, that's true on a deep ego level.

But with respect to getting into relationships, up until the last couple of decades, people were forced to reconcile their "fantasy" selves with the results they got in the real world.

Before the internet and social media, it would have been pretty difficult to believe you are super gorgeous, etc., without ever actually being able to get a date.

The ego is the driving force, but the results we get in the world forced us (before social media) to be a bit more realistic.

Tell that to the female gender

 

[Clockwerk50]

Kind of disagree.

Sure, that's true on a deep ego level.

But with respect to getting into relationships, up until the last couple of decades, people were forced to reconcile their "fantasy" selves with the results they got in the real world.

Before the internet and social media, it would have been pretty difficult to believe you are super gorgeous, etc., without ever actually being able to get a date.

The ego is the driving force, but the results we get in the world forced us (before social media) to be a bit more realistic.

The relationship aspect reiterates my point: we often idealize the people we’re attracted to, seeing them as more perfect than they really are, to feed our own self-esteem. For example, an older man might expect a younger woman, seeing her as pure or perfect to match his idealized image of himself, or he might romanticize the idea of being with a Playboy model, thinking it reflects his status or desirability. This tendency to overvalue others isn’t new and it’s always been part of human nature. But you are right, social media may make it more visible, but the ego has always driven us to create these fantasies, long before the internet. It’s simple: if we’re not attracted to someone, it’s often because they don’t fit the fantasy we’ve built around our own desires or self-image.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

the ego has always driven us to create these fantasies,

In the past, before social media and the internet, and to a lesser extent before TV, it was much, much harder to reconcile these fantasies with what you saw in real life.

Having delusions about your own value was difficult if nothing you actually experienced in the real world validated those fantasies.

Today, it's easy to continue to believe in your own inflated value if you're consistently reading fantasy crap on social media. But back in the day, the ONLY thing you had to compare your fantasies with were the day-to-day interactions you had with real people. This was a very powerful "ego-killing" experience.

social media may make it more visible,

Social media doesn't just make it more visible.

It makes it much, much worse.

I don't know how old you are, but remembering what it was like even before the Internet, and even before the massive number of channels on cable TV, makes this easy to appreciate.

There was ONLY what existed in your brain and ONLY what you experienced out in the real world.

It was very hard to maintain delusions about your own value in that scenario.

(Of course, for many guys, the belief that women (and have always done, therefore being part of their nature) vastly overestimate their value is a handy cope to externalize the problem of not having sufficient game/personality/social skills to get something going.)