As a mid 30s guy in STEM, having a lot of difficulty finding a lifetime partner

[MatureDJ]

@NiHaoMike you're a low 5 or a high 4, see HB scale bellow.

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Forget about height, you're not a midget and that's good enough. But otherwise, the build of your body, high body fat content, makes you feminine looking. That's not good. That's the main reason you are high 4's and low 5's on the hot babe scale.

There is simply no physical attraction to you when women look at you.

You need to go to health and fitness section of this forum, post a picture of your body, without head. Ask them to come up with a routine for you. Exercise and diet.

Idea is to get you up to 6 in half a year or so. Then, your new body and confidence, combined with ward rope and style, you'll have a chance.

There are a bunch of gals in that image that are rated 6 that with a decent body would be bangable.

 

[Gamisch]

He is not attractive rich though. OP could be a multi-millionaire right now, but how would women outside his social circle know this? Unless women know you are rich, they are just seeing a short older asian guy trying to hit on them lol.

He doesn't have to be " rich" but his statement that he has a career in stem clearly indicates he is doing well.

To put it bluntly: he will have to be where it's known upfront who has what. In other words, he can join a paid site or even pay someone who negotiates on his behalf and clearly states his financial situation.

Plenty of women in SE Asia, south America, E Europe and Africa that are willing to look passed whatever flaws he has right now...is it the most sexy way if going bout things? No. But in his case probably the most effective ..

Mind you, if OP was anyone close to me I'd advise him to stay away from predatory women because all that he will get is tons and tons of problems..But hey...we all want some don't we?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Mind you, if OP was anyone close to me I'd advise him to stay away from predatory women because all that he will get is tons and tons of problems..But hey...we all want some don't we

Unless, Op wants to settle for a gold digger, he is going to have to learn some social & marketing skills lol.

 

[Gamisch]

Unless, Op wants to settle for a gold digger, he is going to have to learn some social & marketing skills lol.

Better late than never..but tbh the real problem ij situations like this is that women simply present all kimds of challenges to a man.

- if she really likes you it might be problematic. Sounds contradicting, but the real ones know what I mean...

- if she doesn't really like you on the other hand, it's ALSO problematic...

A man had to go through a couple of women to learn what he is like, how he responds, how to recognize certain things, how to de-escalate. Let alone how to satisfy a woman what basically brings us back to the second problem.

Dude jist gotta adopt tye dark traits/ side and get his d1ck wet. Burning desire is of the table at this point..

 

[Bible_Belt]

try to look for girls in the real world, but where?

Farms, small ones in particular. Take your electronics skills, couple that with your interest in environmentalism and healthy food, and use it to help local farmers. Automation is the future of agriculture and labor costs are only going up. You might find a non profit that promotes local agriculture, or just go to a farmer's market and talk to the vendors (some markets are resellers and not actual farmers, just depends on location).

If you were local to me, I could introduce you to lots of people who could use a hand. I'm building an irrigation system in the spring that could use a controller. I'm probably not getting the most out of my electric fence because I don't understand electricity as well as you. And I don't have livestock, but I see those farmers beginning to use technology to monitor their animals. Equipment is expensive, but much less so when you can build it yourself.

Local farmers have the healthiest food, and they are happy to barter for services. You could eat well, reduce your own food costs, and meet a lot of people.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

These comics explains how dutiful STEM men get women:

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I like the part where delta male finally mans up and takes care of children of fckboyz. He should do it much, much earlier