MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
haha yea sounds pretty much like my ex. its usually the unstable ones tough, like she was.amoka said:"mate insurance", "mate poaching", "sexual economy"... wow.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I thought this part was interesting, especially since around here it seems like the first thing everyone says is get into the gym. In my experience women do like their guys to be in shape, and they DO like muscles, but I have heard this before that they don't like the competitive bodybuilding look. At some point it appears you will get diminishing returns from women for lifting.Interestingly, women do not like muscle-bound men, and men misperceive how muscular women want them to be.