Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If the age of consent is 16, as it is in most US states, then she can legally give consent. So not rape. And most certainly not pedophilia.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes. I do have a problem with cultures that think it is acceptable for a 25 year olds and 16 year olds to have sex.
That's certainly your right. The idea just doesn't bother me. Maybe because it was probably more common when I was growing up (in the '60s). I can think of numerous examples from that time.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
...and we're back to the argument of law vs nature. Many girls who are 16 (and younger) are already having sex. The law had made it illegal for an 18+ year old male to have sex with girls under 18, regardless of whether those girls are already having sex.
The 16 year old was a single mom with kids from a previous guy. In this particular case, a 25 year old guy who actually wants to marry her instead of just pump & dump doesn´t sound so bad (to me, at least).
like most people ehre seen to have missed this point, she HAVE a 2 Years Old child from a previous guy, marriage is the least of her problems
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
